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How I helped my client (6) – Enjoy Pregnancy Rather Than Fear it

By |2025-12-17T18:54:35+00:00December 17th, 2025|Anxiety therapy, couples therapy, Inner Conflicts, Parenting Counseling|

Sabina a 37-year-old veterinarian was stunned when she discovered she was pregnant. She hadn’t planned it, and nor had her husband Zev, a 39-year-old anesthesiologist. In fact both had been wedded to their careers rewarded by being able to  travel all over the world, without being tied down as parents of young children. Sabina’s [...]

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Compulsive Sexual Behavior is Not About Sex!

By |2025-11-30T16:13:39+00:00November 30th, 2025|Cheating and Affairs, Inner Conflicts, Intimacy|

“I can’t stop going to prostitutes for sex. I hate myself for it, but I can’t stop. I hate doing this to my girlfriend, but it’s all I think about. After the sex I feel disgusted with myself, but I keep doing it. I’ve tried hard to give it up but I can’t. I [...]

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When Does Desire For Life Become Dangerous in a Marriage?

By |2025-11-01T15:02:40+00:00November 1st, 2025|Inner Conflicts, Insecurity Counseling, relationship issues|

“I’m just even,” 38-year old Francesca said, as she moved her right palm horizontally in a flat line. She said that nothing felt palatable; and that if she felt some excitement at being asked to go out with a friend, it died down almost immediately. She couldn’t keep the flame of desire going long [...]

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Helping my client – Trade Guilt for Pride in Self-Care

By |2025-10-20T16:59:31+00:00October 20th, 2025|Fear and Panic, Inner Conflicts|

“I don’t know why I wait till the last minute to do things I want to do.” This is what Tessa, a 35-year-old natural birth coach told me after a series of realizations that she only acts when there is a sense of urgency – propelling her to act in the moment, even though [...]

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Hope and Hopelessness – How They Work to Manage the Threat of Reality

By |2025-09-01T05:04:44+00:00September 1st, 2025|Anxiety Treatment, Family of Origin Counseling, Fear and Pani, Helplessness, Individual Counseling, Inner Conflicts|

There are two ways I hear clients talk about the issue of hope. One goes something like this: “I have to keep hope alive that my partner will change, or else there is no point!” The other takes a different path: “I just feel hopeless, my partner’s never going to change, so I might [...]

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How I helped My Client (3) – Manage Chronic Insomnia and Sleep Like a Baby

By |2025-08-19T19:04:09+00:00August 19th, 2025|Anger Stress and Health, Inner Conflicts, Uncategorized|

Insomnia dogged 36-year-old Phillipe all his life. He hated not being able to control his body and make it do the right thing, just as he hated all parts of himself that were not perfect. Insomnia was a sign of imperfection and a sign that he wasn’t normal – making him feel defeated in [...]

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How I Helped My Client 2 – Showing How She Set Herself Up to Deny Her Deepest Wish

By |2025-07-22T19:07:45+00:00July 22nd, 2025|Anxiety Treatment, Depression Counseling, Inner Conflicts, Insecurity Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues, Uncategorized|

How I helped My Client  – Showing How She Set Herself Up to Deny Her Deepest Wish Susan a 38-year-old Dental Hygienist had always felt that she got a raw deal in life. Unloved and neglected by her parents, she was now rejected by her partner Mick when she made overtures for closeness, affection, [...]

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Why Your Efforts to “Cheer Them Up” Doesn’t Work for Depressive Personality Styles

By |2025-06-09T20:37:41+00:00June 9th, 2025|Anger Issues, Depression Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling, Inner Conflicts|

Poppy let out a big sigh as her 32-year-old brother Josh said that he had tried her latest suggestion of walking in nature motivation but it hadn’t helped with his fatigue and low motivation. Josh’s big sister had been trying to buoy him up for as long as she could remember, to no effect. [...]

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Torn Between Your Parents and Your Partner – Unable to Choose

By |2025-05-13T18:28:28+00:00May 13th, 2025|Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Individual Counseling, Inner Conflicts, Intimacy, Separation and Loss|

Howard couldn’t commit to his girlfriend Melinda. He was torn between her and his parents. He didn’t want to choose, and hoped that Melinda, a 33-year-old food writer would tolerate his umbilical connection with his parents; because being cut off from them was worse than the idea of losing Melinda. Howard couldn’t separate from [...]

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