How Rumination and Insecurity Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups Rumination and insecurity go hand in hand. Insecurity is a destabilizing experience. It takes the ground from under you. There is nothing to hold onto because you feel lost, wobbly and untethered. Along comes a rope to cling to – a mental strategy [...]
Spotting Insecurities and Addressing Them to Strengthen Relationships Spotting insecurities in yourself can be scary and shameful as a client recently told me about being stuck in a relationship where he felt demeaned and devalued. He wanted to learn how to become more secure inside of himself to withstand the put downs, let downs [...]
Managing Parental Frustration When Your Child Can’t Choose and Wants Everything Parental frustration is an hourly and daily experience for most moms and dads who are trying to play nice to their kids by offering them food and or play choices only to get no reaction, or one of wanting everything. Parents want to [...]
Substance Abuse acts as Self-Medication to Manage Loneliness, Anxiety and Depression Substance abuse acts as self-medication for millions of young people who are persistently depressed from the ages of ten to twenty four. According to the Journal of the Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, (2021), chronic depression in these formative years is the [...]
https://losangeleswestsidetherapy.com/couples-counseling/How are you wired for love? Wired for love – alternating power plays Cole, a 36 year-old painter and decorator adored his wife Mona, a 38-year-old city administrator had been through grueling breakups with their previous partners and come together to fill the holes and soothe each other. But as the wounds of loss [...]
Understanding and Tracking Relational Trauma in the Body Tracking relational trauma is essential, because it gets activated when you least expect it. Trauma survivors may not realize that they have been emotionally traumatized; and so are oblivious to their reactions to others during a bout of activation. Their reactions are prescribed and they are not [...]
Trauma in the Body Trauma in the body shows up in a variety of ways, often combined with one another, for example insomnia and back pain. Trauma in the body is a sign that some parts of your natural development were disturbed and twisted, causing unbearable shock to the system. You were helpless to respond [...]
Parenting an Angry Child – The Three ‘A’s of success Parenting an angry child who can be unpredictable, explosive and overwhelming is one of the toughest jobs ever. To be scared of your own child who seems threatening, sets up a massive rush of adrenaline in you the parent – just as your child is [...]
Five Ways to Mange Post-pandemic Anxiety About Changes in Family Life A great deal of attention is being focused on adjusting to a post-pandemic world as vaccinations make it safer to do so. A bunch of recent articles talk about post-pandemic social anxiety of being in crowded places and having rusty social skills in general. [...]
Feeling Depressed? What are the Signs of Depression? Signs of depression seem obvious at first, right? – you feel low, or down; lack energy and motivation, and also ‘don’t care.’ But are these actual signs of depression or just reactions to life not going your way? How do you know whether you are just feeling [...]
