Managing Parental Frustration When Your Child Can’t Choose and Wants Everything Parental frustration is an hourly and daily experience for most moms and dads who are trying to play nice to their kids by offering them food and or play choices only to get no reaction, or one of wanting everything. Parents want to [...]
Substance Abuse acts as Self-Medication to Manage Loneliness, Anxiety and Depression Substance abuse acts as self-medication for millions of young people who are persistently depressed from the ages of ten to twenty four. According to the Journal of the Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, (2021), chronic depression in these formative years is the [...]
https://losangeleswestsidetherapy.com/couples-counseling/How are you wired for love? Wired for love – alternating power plays Cole, a 36 year-old painter and decorator adored his wife Mona, a 38-year-old city administrator had been through grueling breakups with their previous partners and come together to fill the holes and soothe each other. But as the wounds of loss [...]
Understanding and Tracking Relational Trauma in the Body Tracking relational trauma is essential, because it gets activated when you least expect it. Trauma survivors may not realize that they have been emotionally traumatized; and so are oblivious to their reactions to others during a bout of activation. Their reactions are prescribed and they are not [...]
Trauma in the Body Trauma in the body shows up in a variety of ways, often combined with one another, for example insomnia and back pain. Trauma in the body is a sign that some parts of your natural development were disturbed and twisted, causing unbearable shock to the system. You were helpless to respond [...]
Parenting an Angry Child – The Three ‘A’s of success Parenting an angry child who can be unpredictable, explosive and overwhelming is one of the toughest jobs ever. To be scared of your own child who seems threatening, sets up a massive rush of adrenaline in you the parent – just as your child is [...]
Spouses with depression suffer intense marital problems due to a history of childhood trauma and emotional abuse Spouses with depression face insecure and rocky marital relations. When one spouse has depression, it’s hard for the non-depressed spouse to feel connected and alive in the relationship. But when both spouses are depressed, the stakes go through [...]
Are you a man who is an obedient, loyal, dependable guy with your female partner? Do you give her the authority to make decisions, take the lead and initiative on parenting, spending money and organizing your social life? Then you may be very conficted about having no power yourself just so you can ensure that you are loved and cared for. Maybe you just don't know which part of you to go with? What will the consequences be if you take on a more authoritative role? How will it be if you continue to avoid asserting yourself? You know that inside you there is a raging bull ready to smash everything that smacks of needing to depend on your female partner for care.
If you have ever felt envious in the tiniest bit you will know how it can eat your soul alive and make you unavailable for an emotionally intimate relationship. You will be so filled with envious rage that others have what you should have, deserve and have been deprived of that there is no room for anything else. On the other hand if you have felt the envious rage of a loved one thrown your way, you may be blindsided by its force and intensity. You may not be able to see where the rage is coming from, let alone understand that there is envy behind it, because to you there is no reason for it. Either way it's important that envy doesn't destabilize your relationship. Without recognition and attention to reducing it, envy shows itself in aggressive ways, turning an accepting love into one of possession.
It's infuriating when your best laid plans fall apart at the last minute. You had it all going smoothly. You took care of all the snags, got everything prepared in the right order and had all the necessary funds for your plan to succeed. But then out of the blue it crumbles. You are angry, bitterly disappointed, and want to give up. The stress wears you out. This pattern happens over and over again, that just when you are on the point of success and growth you find yourself back at the start line! Why does this happen to you on a regular basis?