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Why Your Efforts to “Cheer Them Up” Doesn’t Work for Depressive Personality Styles

By |2025-06-09T20:37:41+00:00June 9th, 2025|Anger Issues, Depression Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling, Inner Conflicts|

Poppy let out a big sigh as her 32-year-old brother Josh said that he had tried her latest suggestion of walking in nature motivation but it hadn’t helped with his fatigue and low motivation. Josh’s big sister had been trying to buoy him up for as long as she could remember, to no effect. [...]

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Torn Between Your Parents and Your Partner – Unable to Choose

By |2025-05-13T18:28:28+00:00May 13th, 2025|Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Individual Counseling, Inner Conflicts, Intimacy, Separation and Loss|

Howard couldn’t commit to his girlfriend Melinda. He was torn between her and his parents. He didn’t want to choose, and hoped that Melinda, a 33-year-old food writer would tolerate his umbilical connection with his parents; because being cut off from them was worse than the idea of losing Melinda. Howard couldn’t separate from [...]

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Is Your Reality Being Whipsawed by Your Constantly Shifting Partner?

By |2025-04-10T23:40:00+00:00April 10th, 2025|Communication Problems, couples therapy, Helplessness, Insecurity Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Mandy vehemently denied agreeing to take the kids to their swim meet on Saturday morning, despite eagerly agreeing to do so the previous evening. Troy, her 40-year-old husband was astounded. He recalled her excitement along with the kids, anticipating digging into their favorite foods at their local weekend brunch eatery. But come Saturday morning, [...]

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Silence Between Couples – a Power Grab or a Sign of Comfort and Trust?

By |2025-04-03T18:30:51+00:00March 5th, 2025|Anxiety and Health, Communication Issues, Couples Counseling, couples therapy, Helplessness, Insecurity Counseling|

Silence between couples, especially between Max and Alysia was nothing new. Sometimes the silences were short lived as wounds were licked, but other times the silences were annihilating with no sense of recovery. For Max the silence between couples was a sign of great uncertainty, fueling his insecurity. The thundering silence in response to [...]

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The Emptiness of Letting go Versus the Torture of Hanging on – the Unwinnable tug-of-war

By |2025-02-10T19:37:07+00:00February 10th, 2025|Breakups and Separation, Insecurity Counseling, Uncategorized|

The emptiness of letting go was just as hard three years after 37-year-old Marion’s marriage ended as it had been when her husband called it a day, putting the fault squarely on her. She felt rubbished and longed for her ex-partner Simon to acknowledge his role in the failure of their marriage. This wish [...]

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Helplessness – the good and bad ways to use it

By |2025-01-06T19:25:59+00:00January 6th, 2025|Anger Stress and Health, Anxiety therapy, Family of Origin Counseling, Helplessness, Intimacy|

Helplessness is scary and destabilizing. Helplessness evokes the need to be rescued, and excused from one's ineptitude. It’s seen as a negative; a sham or overdramatization. Helplessness is regarded as a sign of immaturity, neediness and over dependency in our society – except when that helplessness is sanctioned as cute and or adorable when [...]

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How Sexual Promiscuity Compensates for Lack of Agency in Power Based Relationships

By |2024-12-12T00:27:03+00:00December 12th, 2024|Dating, Family of Origin Counseling, Individual Counseling, relationship issues|

Sexual promiscuity evokes an image of routinely sleeping around with multiple partners, and being okay with it. Sexual promiscuity makes light of emotional ties, making it easy to go from one to another. Sexual promiscuity involves getting high on new experiences while playing out fantasies that would be shameful or taboo in a committed [...]

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Why One Partner’s Defense Becomes the Other Person’s Pain: The Game of Emotionally Lethal Ping-Pong

By |2024-11-20T17:44:34+00:00November 20th, 2024|Anger Management Counseling, Anxiety Treatment, Communication Problems, couples therapy, Insecurity Counseling|

“Stop being so defensive!” is a common missile thrown by one partner at the other, in an effort to defend their self-image. It’s the age old game of “I’m not perfect, but neither are you!” There is always a tussle for who is the angel and who is the devil during interactions where insecure [...]

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Stagnant Couples Relationships – How Self-Censorship Stifles Growth and Progress

By |2024-10-02T16:04:50+00:00October 2nd, 2024|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Individual Counseling, Insecurity Counseling, Intimacy|

When partners are at different phases in their personal development, they are often afraid that exploring their expanding experiences might threaten the relationship. Self-Censorship becomes a valuable tool in keeping feelings locked away, so as not to rock the boat. But, there is a price to pay, and that is a relationship where each [...]

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Anxiety is a Fuel for Action – ‘Being Present’ Doesn’t Work for All Sources of Anxiety

By |2024-09-03T16:42:35+00:00August 28th, 2024|Anxiety therapy, Anxiety Treatment, Individual Counseling, Insecurity Counseling|

Anxiety is a fuel for action. Being anxious is unbearable, it makes you want to do something, anything that can relieve the pit in the stomach dread that something bad is imminent; and you have zero control. Anxiety is a sign of helplessness in the midst of threat. It propels you to act, to [...]

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