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The Insistence in Believing in the Perfect Relationship, Despite The Let Downs

By |2026-05-31T17:45:35+00:00May 31st, 2026|Individual Counseling, Inner Conflicts, Intimacy|

“I’m really sad that it happened again,” Yasmin said in a low voice. “He accused me of looking at other guys in the café when I wasn’t. But when he  ogles women and I get upset he flies off the handle and tells me I expect too much and should back off.”Dashed expectations were a [...]

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Relational Trauma has a Neurobiology That Messes With Intimate Connections

By |2026-05-04T17:39:03+00:00May 3rd, 2026|Anger Stress and Health, Anxiety therapy, couples therapy, Individual Counseling|

Zara, a 33-year-old medical genetic researcher came out of the shower at 8:00 am,  and sat at her dinette.  Her body started to shake. Her trembling hands dropped the coffee pot over the counter top, splashing the hot liquid on her clean shirt. Her heart and breathing rate escalated until she felt faint. She [...]

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Genuine Versus False Affection: Navigating it in Insecure Relationships

By |2026-03-31T17:17:39+00:00March 31st, 2026|Insecurity Counseling, Intimacy, stress|

Genuine versus fasle affection: what's real and what isn't? “He only gives me a hug goodnight because I complained about how little we touch. But it isn’t real. He’s only doing it because it’s on his list. It doesn’t feel like genuine affection, and I’d rather not have it,” said 36-year-old Marion describing her [...]

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The Savior-Victim dynamic in relationships: Why One Partner Needs to Fix and the Other Needs to Be Broken

By |2026-03-01T16:02:37+00:00March 1st, 2026|co-dependency, couples therapy, Inner Conflicts, Insecurity Counseling|

Julio a 43-year-old solar panel engineer had a natural genius for noticing a problem and fixing it. It was a gift he used to make his partner Geena, a 44-year-old artisan baker happy and satisfied. He expected that she would be enthralled, take him into her world and keep him there, safe, cozy, and [...]

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Breaking The Disappointment Loop: How Your Brain’s Default Settings Sabotage Your Romantic Relationships

By |2026-02-01T21:28:09+00:00February 1st, 2026|Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, stress|

The disappointment loop – Shannon’s story Shannon a 40-year-old sales manager sighed deeply as her husband Dario, a 41-year-old robotics engineer, declined her help in the backyard and ignored her when she asked him to cuddle up on the sofa to watch a show in the evening. The disappointment loop kicked in again – [...]

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Negative Interactions Outweigh Positive Ones in Romantic Relationships

By |2026-01-07T17:56:04+00:00January 7th, 2026|couples therapy, Insecurity Counseling|

“Why does my wife never acknowledge everything I do for her, and only focus on the one time I forgot to call her when I was late home?” Marcus a 38-year-old realtor pleaded. “I try to tell her I love her every day, make sure we are on good terms before we go to [...]

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How I helped my client (6) – Enjoy Pregnancy Rather Than Fear it

By |2025-12-17T18:54:35+00:00December 17th, 2025|Anxiety therapy, couples therapy, Inner Conflicts, Parenting Counseling|

Sabina a 37-year-old veterinarian was stunned when she discovered she was pregnant. She hadn’t planned it, and nor had her husband Zev, a 39-year-old anesthesiologist. In fact both had been wedded to their careers rewarded by being able to  travel all over the world, without being tied down as parents of young children. Sabina’s [...]

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Compulsive Sexual Behavior is Not About Sex!

By |2025-11-30T16:13:39+00:00November 30th, 2025|Cheating and Affairs, Inner Conflicts, Intimacy|

“I can’t stop going to prostitutes for sex. I hate myself for it, but I can’t stop. I hate doing this to my girlfriend, but it’s all I think about. After the sex I feel disgusted with myself, but I keep doing it. I’ve tried hard to give it up but I can’t. I [...]

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When Does Desire For Life Become Dangerous in a Marriage?

By |2025-11-01T15:02:40+00:00November 1st, 2025|Inner Conflicts, Insecurity Counseling, relationship issues|

“I’m just even,” 38-year old Francesca said, as she moved her right palm horizontally in a flat line. She said that nothing felt palatable; and that if she felt some excitement at being asked to go out with a friend, it died down almost immediately. She couldn’t keep the flame of desire going long [...]

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Helping my client – Trade Guilt for Pride in Self-Care

By |2025-10-20T16:59:31+00:00October 20th, 2025|Fear and Panic, Inner Conflicts|

“I don’t know why I wait till the last minute to do things I want to do.” This is what Tessa, a 35-year-old natural birth coach told me after a series of realizations that she only acts when there is a sense of urgency – propelling her to act in the moment, even though [...]

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