5 Tips ForDealing with Paranoia in a Relationship Dealing with Paranoia in a Relationship Do you ever think your partner is ‘paranoid?’ When your partner accuses you of something that feels so off the wall, do you silently wonder whether your partner is no longer in the real world? If so then dealing with [...]
Have you ever felt that your loved one took out their anger, frustration and anxiety out on you? Do feel like a walking target for your family member’s angst with the world, just because you are there? Maybe you have spoken up and said that you don’t want to be their dustbin and or punching bag, and yet it has stayed exactly the same. You continue to feel the butt of your loved ones stress and worry and anger that their world isn’t right. There is a constant undercurrent of tension and conflict in your relationship and you can’t seem to fix it. There is an explanation for your partner taking it out on you.
Do you get so frustrated with the uncertainty of not knowing whether your relationship is off or on that you consider making your partner jealous? Do you have visions of flirting with someone else just to get a reaction from your partner that will show you that you belong to them? Are you needing to test your partner and the bonds of your relationship by bringing in a potential rival so that your partner will claim you and be true to you forever more? That sounds exhausting and very unsatisfying? When will it be enough? Will you have to keep doing it every time you feel insecure? Think of the damage it could do to the relationship in the long run, and the stress that you have to endure to keep your security levels topped up?
Jody was a loner, loved to read and listen to music. She woke up most mornings burdened with the weight of the day ahead. She felt tired and worn out even before she began the day, anticipating what people might think of her. She was concerned with who was looking over her shoulder, waiting to accuse her of doing something wrong. She expected to encounter situations that she wouldn't be able to handle. Memories of inadvertently upsetting people in the past invaded her mind. Uncomfortable past experiences infected the present, as Jody was whipped up into a froth of palpitating anxiety.
Fear of success is often due to beliefs you have about having to choose between staying connected in relationships versus going on your path of personal success. Learn the secret to freeing yourself of that obstacle so that you can have both your individual success and your important relationships.
If you are afraid of your partner's reaction to what you may share, then you probably avoid communicating about important things until a crisis arises. Leaving it so late creates a bad reaction and makes you more afraid, putting you in a negative loop. Learn the 3 steps you need to take to stop the anticipated fear and come from a confident place, solving things together and strengthening your intimate connections.
Panic attacks may come when loved ones abuse you emotionally and verbally, but you can't stand up to them. When you are dependent on those who abuse you because you fear going it alone, the only way you can deal with the dilemma is to have panic attacks. Learn how to empower yourself with fearing the loss of the relationship ties, while avoiding the abuse.
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When you are anxious about not being able to please your loved ones and putting the relationship at risk, you may be blurring the boundaries of responsibility, and become overwhelmed with anxiety. Learn the three ways you can get grounded and achieve your purpose without stress and anxiety turning you into a mess.
Panic attacks can shock and disturb your sense of equilibrium. Understanding their message can help you deal with the unfinished business left over from your past life. But first you have to get past the shame about having feelings, thoughts and needs that you no longer approve of. Panic attacks fill your radar with shame and force you to deal with things you have avoided but cannot afford to ignore any longer.