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Being Honest With Your Partner Is Hard – The Brutal Reason Why

By | November 2nd, 2022|Couples Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling, Insecurity Counseling|

Being honest with your partner seems like a no brainer. Almost everyone believes it’s a given when they fall in love and set up home and family with their chosen one. But most people think being honest with your partner is about accounting for your whereabouts, money issues, childcare, family obligations, life-style and so [...]

What’s Your Style of Caring? Do You Care About, Care For, or Care Through Co- Dependency

By | October 6th, 2022|Couples Counseling, Insecurity Counseling, Intimacy|

Style of caring? Who ever heard of that? It’s a load of nonsense psychobabble! I bet that’s what’s going through your head right now. But it you are reading this, then you are intrigued, and may be wondering what exactly is your style of caring. You may think you care about your loved ones, [...]

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Surviving Separations and Reunions That Promote Healthy Relationships

By | September 13th, 2022|Breakups and Separation, Insecurity Counseling, Parenting Counseling, Separation and Loss, separation counseling, Uncategorized|

Surviving separations may conjure up major milestones like the loss of a loved one who has moved away or passed on – in other words, a physical separation. But it’s usually the micro separations from the moment one is born that have massive emotional impacts and determine how well you will adapt to and [...]

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Hate Being the Bogey Man? Then Give up These Four Things

By | July 11th, 2022|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Insecurity Counseling, Parenting Counseling, stress|

Hate Being the Bogey Man? Then Give up These Four Things! Being cast as the bogey man is hurtful, crushing and upends your sense of reality. Your self-esteem and sense of value is threatened. Being the bogey man in your romantic relationship can wear you down into a beleaguered timid powerless victim OR make [...]

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Three Ways to Make Bad Feelings Less Sticky

By | January 20th, 2022|Anger Stress and Health, Anxiety Treatment, Breakups and Separation, Insecurity Counseling, stress|

Three Ways to Make Bad Feelings Less Sticky Every client I have worked with shares their despair that their bad feelings won’t go away, and that nothing they do makes it better. Getting distracted for a while by being busy; sleeping; vegetating in front of a screen or immersing yourself in a job doesn’t [...]

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How Insecurity and Rumination Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups

By | November 24th, 2021|Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, Fear and Pani, Insecurity Counseling, Separation and Loss|

How Rumination and Insecurity Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups   Rumination and insecurity go hand in hand. Insecurity is a destabilizing experience. It takes the ground from under you. There is nothing to hold onto because you feel lost, wobbly and untethered. Along comes a rope to cling to – a mental strategy [...]

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Spotting Insecurities and Addressing it to Strengthen Relationships

By | October 27th, 2021|Anxiety Treatment, Breakups and Separation, Communication Issues, Couples Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling, Fear and Pani, Insecurity Counseling, relationship issues, Separation and Loss, separation counseling|

Spotting Insecurities and Addressing Them to Strengthen Relationships Spotting insecurities in yourself can be scary and shameful as a client recently told me about being stuck in a relationship where he felt demeaned and devalued. He wanted to learn how to become more secure inside of himself to withstand the put downs, let downs [...]

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Signs of Depression -Origins and Purpose

By | February 15th, 2021|Depression Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling, Insecurity Counseling|

Feeling Depressed? What are the Signs of Depression? Signs of depression seem obvious at first, right? – you feel low, or down; lack energy and motivation, and also ‘don’t care.’ But are these actual signs of depression or just reactions to life not going your way? How do you know whether you are just feeling [...]

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Seven Ways to Say, “I love you,” and Six Ways That Fail

By | December 11th, 2020|Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling, Insecurity Counseling, Intimacy, separation counseling|

Seven Ways to Say, “I love you,” and Six Ways That Fail. “I love you!” says your partner as they go off to get on with their day. “Love you” says your mom as you end a phone conversation and you say it back. Do you feel loved in that moment? Are you experiencing loving [...]

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How Worrying and Boredom Team up to Keep You Stuck

By | June 17th, 2020|Anxiety therapy, Individual Counseling, Insecurity Counseling|

How Worrying and Boredom Team up to Keep You Stuck Worrying and boredom are two of the most complaints I hear from clients, but more pronounced during the pandemic lockdown. Here are some of the remarks regarding worrying and boredom that have stuck with me: “I worry that my partner will make me the bad [...]

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