Stonewalling is a form of passive aggressive interaction where one person in a close relationship withdraws from the other, to punish you for wounding them and making them feel insecure. In order to manage the threat of that insecurity they turn the tables and attempt to shift the insecurity to the other person. It’s [...]
How Rumination and Insecurity Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups Rumination and insecurity go hand in hand. Insecurity is a destabilizing experience. It takes the ground from under you. There is nothing to hold onto because you feel lost, wobbly and untethered. Along comes a rope to cling to – a mental strategy [...]
Spotting Insecurities and Addressing Them to Strengthen Relationships Spotting insecurities in yourself can be scary and shameful as a client recently told me about being stuck in a relationship where he felt demeaned and devalued. He wanted to learn how to become more secure inside of himself to withstand the put downs, let downs [...]
Good Feelings Can Scare you into the Familiar Arms of the Bad Feelings Good feelings turn bad so quick. Damn! You know only too well that pattern of feeling great one minute and then boom, you hear bad news, or your phone runs out of juice – those positive feelings get wiped out in a [...]
Loneliness Anxiety Loneliness anxiety is one of the hardest things to bear Loneliness anxiety is a wounding and scary feeling. Loneliness anxiety is an existential threat. It’s a sense of not existing in the mind of your loved ones – as if you don’t exist; that you don’t have a place on the radar of [...]
Suppressed Emotions, IBS and Joint Pain Suppressed emotions of rage and loss made 36 year-old Jamie’s Sunday Barbecue a washout. Stomach cramps and diarrhea meant he couldn’t relax and be with family celebrating their parents’ 50th wedding anniversary. He thought he may have eaten too much ice-cream and fried chicken the night before, and tried [...]
Three months before his wedding 35 year-old Damien came home from working as a lab technician tired, grumpy and dreading the thought of having to propose to his girlfriend or else lose her. He hated the idea of making that decision only to find that there were better fish in the sea. He thought very highly of 32-year-old Physical Therapist Leila, but didn’t want to make that final commitment. It felt like he was imprisoning himself for life. The stress was unbearable.
