Anxiety is a fuel for action. Being anxious is unbearable, it makes you want to do something, anything that can relieve the pit in the stomach dread that something bad is imminent; and you have zero control. Anxiety is a sign of helplessness in the midst of threat. It propels you to act, to [...]
Stonewalling is a form of passive aggressive interaction where one person in a close relationship withdraws from the other, to punish you for wounding them and making them feel insecure. In order to manage the threat of that insecurity they turn the tables and attempt to shift the insecurity to the other person. It’s [...]
Three Ways to Make Bad Feelings Less Sticky Every client I have worked with shares their despair that their bad feelings won’t go away, and that nothing they do makes it better. Getting distracted for a while by being busy; sleeping; vegetating in front of a screen or immersing yourself in a job doesn’t [...]
Spotting Insecurities and Addressing Them to Strengthen Relationships Spotting insecurities in yourself can be scary and shameful as a client recently told me about being stuck in a relationship where he felt demeaned and devalued. He wanted to learn how to become more secure inside of himself to withstand the put downs, let downs [...]
Five Ways to Mange Post-pandemic Anxiety About Changes in Family Life A great deal of attention is being focused on adjusting to a post-pandemic world as vaccinations make it safer to do so. A bunch of recent articles talk about post-pandemic social anxiety of being in crowded places and having rusty social skills in general. [...]
Covid-19 related Anxiety and Depression Covid-19 related anxiety and depression rates show a 29% increase from pre-pandemic times a year ago Are you part of the 1 in 3 people experiencing anxiety and depression during this pandemic? Perhaps you feel irritated more than you used to, helpless in a situation where you have no control. [...]
Are You Feeling Anxious for No Reason? Your job is going well, and things are fine with your significant other. You don’t have any conflicts with friends or colleagues. There are no financial problems weighing on your apparently full plate. Yet you are feeling anxious for no reason! Feeling anxious for no reason seems weird. [...]
Spouses with depression suffer intense marital problems due to a history of childhood trauma and emotional abuse Spouses with depression face insecure and rocky marital relations. When one spouse has depression, it’s hard for the non-depressed spouse to feel connected and alive in the relationship. But when both spouses are depressed, the stakes go through [...]
Is a Need for Approval Killing Your Talents and Creative Energy? Do you have an overwhelming need for approval from family, friends and colleagues? Does a need for approval make you anxious when it’s unpredictable? Maybe you have panic attacks, or heartburn when you try hard and don’t succeed in getting your need for approval [...]
5 Tips ForDealing with Paranoia in a Relationship Dealing with Paranoia in a Relationship Do you ever think your partner is ‘paranoid?’ When your partner accuses you of something that feels so off the wall, do you silently wonder whether your partner is no longer in the real world? If so then dealing with [...]
