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Stonewalling – An Intergenerational Power Tool in Insecure Relationships

By |2023-09-14T17:53:11+00:00September 13th, 2023|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Anger Issues, Anxiety Treatment, Family of Origin Counseling, Fear and Pani, Insecurity Counseling, Parenting Counseling|

Stonewalling is a form of passive aggressive interaction where one person in a close relationship withdraws from the other, to punish you for wounding them and making them feel insecure. In order to manage the threat of that insecurity they turn the tables and attempt to shift the insecurity to the other person. It’s [...]

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The Three-D Profile of an Emotionally Abusive Person

By |2023-08-09T22:03:36+00:00August 9th, 2023|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Insecurity Counseling|

An emotionally abusive person doesn’t just diss you or call you names. An emotionally abusive person is much more subtle and has three specific ways that make you feel bad in return for feeling powerful and good. It’s important to have their back story to understand what made them into abusers, what the reward [...]

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Should You Wait for a Partner to Change, if that Partner Cannot Change?

By |2023-03-17T17:28:29+00:00February 9th, 2023|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Anger Management Counseling, couples therapy, Individual Counseling|

“I’m waiting for my partner to change” is a phrase that appears to come up over and over again in my work with individuals who are struggling in relationships that are sometimes safe and satisfying, but at other times devaluing, diminishing and dismissive. Waiting for a partner to change – when does it start? [...]

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Hate Being the Bogey Man? Then Give up These Four Things

By |2022-07-11T18:01:30+00:00July 11th, 2022|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Insecurity Counseling, Parenting Counseling, stress|

Hate Being the Bogey Man? Then Give up These Four Things! Being cast as the bogey man is hurtful, crushing and upends your sense of reality. Your self-esteem and sense of value is threatened. Being the bogey man in your romantic relationship can wear you down into a beleaguered timid powerless victim OR make [...]

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Why Can’t I Control My Anger?

By |2019-11-13T20:14:29+00:00October 31st, 2019|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Anger Issues, Anger Management Counseling, stress|

Why Can’t I Control My Anger? “Why can’t I control my anger” is a desperate cry I hear from so many people who pick up the phone and desperately want help in turning that switch off. “Why can’t I control my anger when the slightest little thing irritates me?” “Why can’t I control my anger [...]

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How Low Self-Esteem Affects Romantic Relationships

By |2017-12-19T21:50:04+00:00December 19th, 2017|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Individual Counseling, Insecurity Counseling, relationship issues|

Low self-esteem is one of the most significant factors affecting the success or otherwise of romantic relationships. Men and women both suffer from low self- esteem, and both genders are equally sensitive to esteem issues in their partnerships. Partners who seek couples counseling struggle to manage issues around low self-esteem, longing to feel valued and worthwhile and most fail in that quest, feeling hopeless and devalued. Failure to cure low self-esteem The reason so many people dont succeed in getting their partners to raise their low self-esteem is that they dont work on the core fears around losing connection if they pursue their personal paths. They give up self-enhancement for connection and end up with low self-esteem.

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Suppressed Emotions, IBS and Joint Pain

By |2017-07-05T23:02:57+00:00June 26th, 2017|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Fear and Pani, Fear and Panic, stress|

Suppressed Emotions, IBS and Joint Pain Suppressed emotions of rage and loss made 36 year-old Jamie’s Sunday Barbecue a washout. Stomach cramps and diarrhea meant he couldn’t relax and be with family celebrating their parents’ 50th wedding anniversary. He thought he may have eaten too much ice-cream and fried chicken the night before, and tried [...]

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Checklist to Tell if You Are In an Abusive Relationship

By |2017-05-22T22:13:15+00:00September 23rd, 2014|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Blog|

6 signs of abusive relationships If you are in an abusive relationship you probably don't know it. You don't recognize that your relationship is any different to others or to the one you grew up in. So here is a twelve item checklist to help you discover whether you are in an abusive relationship, so you don't have to suffer like the NFL'S Ray Rice's wife Jany, Ray McDonald's finance, Adrian Peterson's daughter, or Greg Hardy's domestic violence victims.

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Keeping silent about your feelings may predispose you towards Irritable Bowel Syndrome

By |2019-01-12T00:08:21+00:00August 15th, 2012|Abusive Relationship Counseling, Anger Stress and Health, stress|

Meryl woke up often through the night with abdominal pain and cramping. During the day she often felt bloated and uncomfortable. It messed with her appetite and eating routines. The constant tenderness in her gut made her afraid of going outside her home and work place. She worried about being near rest rooms. She was embarrassed about leaving events frequently to visit the rest room with no apparent relief. She never told anyone and pretended all was well.

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