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Three Ways to Make Bad Feelings Less Sticky

By | January 20th, 2022|Anger Stress and Health, Anxiety Treatment, Breakups and Separation, Insecurity Counseling, stress|

Three Ways to Make Bad Feelings Less Sticky Every client I have worked with shares their despair that their bad feelings won’t go away, and that nothing they do makes it better. Getting distracted for a while by being busy; sleeping; vegetating in front of a screen or immersing yourself in a job doesn’t [...]

How Insecurity and Rumination Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups

By | November 24th, 2021|Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, Fear and Pani, Insecurity Counseling, Separation and Loss|

How Rumination and Insecurity Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups   Rumination and insecurity go hand in hand. Insecurity is a destabilizing experience. It takes the ground from under you. There is nothing to hold onto because you feel lost, wobbly and untethered. Along comes a rope to cling to – a mental strategy [...]

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Spotting Insecurities and Addressing it to Strengthen Relationships

By | October 27th, 2021|Anxiety Treatment, Breakups and Separation, Communication Issues, Couples Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling, Fear and Pani, Insecurity Counseling, relationship issues, Separation and Loss, separation counseling|

Spotting Insecurities and Addressing Them to Strengthen Relationships Spotting insecurities in yourself can be scary and shameful as a client recently told me about being stuck in a relationship where he felt demeaned and devalued. He wanted to learn how to become more secure inside of himself to withstand the put downs, let downs [...]

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Is a Trial Separation Right for you and your Partner?

By | July 22nd, 2020|Breakups and Separation, Family of Origin Counseling, separation counseling|

Is a Trial Separation Right for You and Your Partner? A trial separation may have crossed your mind many times as you went through the stresses and strains of a relationship that often felt like a life sentence. You’ve probably had fantasies of a trial separation where you don’t have to give up everything forever [...]

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Difficulty Mourning a Loss

By | May 13th, 2020|Breakups and Separation, Family of Origin Counseling, Grief Counseling|

Difficulty Mourning a Loss Stirs up Undigested Losses from the Past Difficulty Mourning a loss when the customary rituals of joining and supporting grieving family and friends are absent during a lock-down makes that loss harder to process. Difficulty mourning a recent loss brings up waves of loss and grief from previous losses, making you [...]

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What Makes The Relationship Triangle So Common?

By | January 9th, 2020|Affair Recovery Counseling, Breakups and Separation, Cheating and Affairs, Insecurity Counseling, Parenting Counseling, separation counseling|

The Relationship Triangle Are you caught in a relationship triangle with your mother and father, having to choose sides and loyalty? Maybe you are trapped in a triangle with a parent and a step parent; or with a partner and his or her ex; perhaps you are pinned into a triangle with your partner and [...]

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How to Get Over Rejection

By | November 7th, 2019|Breakups and Separation, Family of Origin Counseling, Insecurity Counseling, separation counseling|

How to Get Over Rejection How to get over rejection - when all you yearn for is for your loved one to embrace you again? How to get over rejection - when you feel that you’ll never be okay until your precious one returns to salve your wounds and make you whole again? How to [...]

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Midlife Crisis – Surviving the Midlife Transistion

By | March 22nd, 2018|Breakups and Separation, Communication Issues, Couples Counseling, Family of Origin Counseling|

Midlife Crisis – Surviving the midlife transition Midlife crises happen to men and women when they have got to a stable place in their lives, especially when and because they originally got together through crisis in their younger lives. What is midlife crisis? A midlife crisis is a discomfort with and confusion about what appears [...]

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Are You Trapped in a Love-Hate Relationship?

By | January 22nd, 2018|Breakups and Separation, Individual Counseling, separation counseling|

Love-hate Relationship Traps Do you feel caught in a love-hate relationship that you can’t escape? Maybe you have tried several times to leave but get seduced into staying because your partner morphs into an irresistibly affectionate, tuned in and available person. In that moment you are washed with the ‘love’ part of the love-hate relationship. [...]

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Why Do Breakups Hurt Even When You Want Them?

By | October 21st, 2017|Breakups and Separation, Individual Counseling, separation counseling|

Why Do Breakups Hurt Even When You Want Them? Is breaking up the only way you can think of to end the hurt in your relationship? Don't  you really want to fix things and get back to a place where everything is smooth and easy? Have you reached out to listen, understand and mend fences, [...]

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