Difficulty Mourning a Loss Stirs up Undigested Losses from the Past Difficulty Mourning a loss when the customary rituals of joining and supporting grieving family and friends are absent during a lock-down makes that loss harder to process. Difficulty mourning a recent loss brings up waves of loss and grief from previous losses, making you [...]
Complicated Grief Therapy Complicated grief hit Adam like a thunderbolt one Saturday evening when his stepmother called and told him that his father was dying. Adam had hated his abusive father all his life – but now he was terrified of losing his dad. He longed for his father to acknowledge and apologize for his [...]
Grief is Vital For Healthy Relationships Grief hits us all and it's important that we feel it Grief can come up on you slowly watching a magical romantic connection fade as you become aware that your partner has a cruel streak – or it can come thick and fast when your brand new loved car [...]
Have you ever been accused of having “abandonment issues”? Maybe you feel abandoned when that phrase is used as a reason to walk away from you instead of working through the problems at hand. Perhaps you believe you have abandonment issues because past relationships have ended making you feel abandoned, unloved and unimportant. To some extent everyone feels abandoned from time to time, but most get over it, experiencing it as a passing blip on the radar, that soon disappears in the richness of a relationship that offers other fulfilling moments. These blips don’t destroy an otherwise firm and secure connection to your significant other. It’s when those blips feel like huge meteors reigning down on you and destroying your footing, taking away your confidence and purpose, that experiences of abandonment can negatively influence your romantic relationships.
How long should you hang onto the false hope that you will be loved the way you want by the person whom you want to love you? You don't have to put your life on hold until you have run out of time. Learn how to grieve the loss of your wish while making room for the chance that you can get what you want if you actively pursue the wish rather than just wait in vain for your loved one to do it your way.
Don't go down feeling shocked and rejected. Use your surprise, anger and sadness to discover what you missed when you thought everything was just fine. Learn to read the signs before the relationship ends so that next time you will be able to act in a way that makes it work before it is too late.