Do you ever wonder if you are fallen out of love with your romantic partner? Maybe it crosses your mind when you feel unseen, unheard, or ignored. Nagging doubts creep up about whether you partner is lovable or worth loving when you feel as if you are irrelevant, or non-existent. Perhaps you wonder if [...]
Surviving separations may conjure up major milestones like the loss of a loved one who has moved away or passed on – in other words, a physical separation. But it’s usually the micro separations from the moment one is born that have massive emotional impacts and determine how well you will adapt to and [...]
Three Ways to Make Bad Feelings Less Sticky Every client I have worked with shares their despair that their bad feelings won’t go away, and that nothing they do makes it better. Getting distracted for a while by being busy; sleeping; vegetating in front of a screen or immersing yourself in a job doesn’t [...]
How Rumination and Insecurity Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups Rumination and insecurity go hand in hand. Insecurity is a destabilizing experience. It takes the ground from under you. There is nothing to hold onto because you feel lost, wobbly and untethered. Along comes a rope to cling to – a mental strategy [...]
Spotting Insecurities and Addressing Them to Strengthen Relationships Spotting insecurities in yourself can be scary and shameful as a client recently told me about being stuck in a relationship where he felt demeaned and devalued. He wanted to learn how to become more secure inside of himself to withstand the put downs, let downs [...]
Is a Trial Separation Right for You and Your Partner? A trial separation may have crossed your mind many times as you went through the stresses and strains of a relationship that often felt like a life sentence. You’ve probably had fantasies of a trial separation where you don’t have to give up everything forever [...]
Difficulty Mourning a Loss Stirs up Undigested Losses from the Past Difficulty Mourning a loss when the customary rituals of joining and supporting grieving family and friends are absent during a lock-down makes that loss harder to process. Difficulty mourning a recent loss brings up waves of loss and grief from previous losses, making you [...]
The Relationship Triangle Are you caught in a relationship triangle with your mother and father, having to choose sides and loyalty? Maybe you are trapped in a triangle with a parent and a step parent; or with a partner and his or her ex; perhaps you are pinned into a triangle with your partner and [...]
How to Get Over Rejection How to get over rejection - when all you yearn for is for your loved one to embrace you again? How to get over rejection - when you feel that you’ll never be okay until your precious one returns to salve your wounds and make you whole again? How to [...]
Midlife Crisis – Surviving the midlife transition Midlife crises happen to men and women when they have got to a stable place in their lives, especially when and because they originally got together through crisis in their younger lives. What is midlife crisis? A midlife crisis is a discomfort with and confusion about what appears [...]
