Unrealistic Expectations Breed Self-Defeating Behaviors Unrealistic expectations may be your biggest enemy! Do you ever want something really badly, but then when it comes it sucks? It drops like a massive bomb of disappointment and lets you down. Either it isn’t the right way, or given with the wrong attitude, or not in the right [...]
Mother’s impact on sons – Five Major Pathways Mother’s impact on sons occurs before they are even conceived. Many cultures value sons more than daughters and use all sort of rituals and concoctions to have male children. So when a male child is conceived, he is already imbued with a stature of value and esteem [...]
Father’s Impact on Sons Father’s impact on sons is of significance from the earliest moments to the end of the boy’s life. When a father sees the ultrasound that reveals he is about to have a son, the influence begins and continues unabated. The expectant father who looks forward to making his son a famous [...]
Mother’s Impact on Daughters A Mother’s impact on daughters is powerful, pervasive and subtle. It starts as soon as the daughter is conceived. Mothers who want sons and then discover that they are expecting girls provide a strong message to the unborn female that she is just a parasite while in the womb, becoming a [...]
Midlife Crisis – Surviving the midlife transition Midlife crises happen to men and women when they have got to a stable place in their lives, especially when and because they originally got together through crisis in their younger lives. What is midlife crisis? A midlife crisis is a discomfort with and confusion about what appears [...]
Fear of Becoming Like Your Parents Fear of becoming like your parents results in anger, anxiety and panic Anxiety and tension gripped 36-year old radiologist Luis, a married with two young daughters when he got a Facebook invitation to join his college mates in Los Vegas for a reunion event. He didn’t want to go, [...]
Dealing with Loneliness in Marriage Dealing with loneliness in marriage is one of the most frequent goals I hear from those seeking couples counseling. Perhaps you have felt lonely in your marriage when your partner is on the phone with business issues during family time; too busy with social commitments or too tired and [...]
Obsessive Passion Leaves You Empty and Unsatisfied Is obsessive passion driving you when you check your partner’s Facebook page or text messages? When you lose weight and tone up to look more attractive to your partner, is it because you are obsessed with being desired or passionate about being the best you can be? Then [...]
Speak Up For Yourself if you Want Healthy Relationships Speak up and risk being erased by her mother’s wrath, or go along with her mother in order to keep the relationship in tact – that was the constant dilemma for 47 year-old-Nina, divorced with 4 teenage children. All her life, Nina had stifled her thoughts, [...]
Five Ways to Recognize a Toxic Family Toxic families are not that unusual. If you were brought up in a toxic family you probably don’t know it. Your experience of what everyone else sees as a toxic family seems normal to you, because you know nothing else. Part of growing up in a toxic family [...]
