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Are You Ready For Couples Therapy?
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Are You Ready For Couples Therapy?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, relationship issues

Are You Ready For Couples Therapy?

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-11T18:14:31+00:00February 2nd, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, relationship issues|

When you have tried as hard as you can to get through to your partner without success you may feel unheard, unseen and misunderstood. You try even harder to make your point, to show where you are coming from and what upsets you so much in the relationship. Your partner may be feeling equally frustrated and exasperated with failed attempts to get through to you about what's going on for them. So you both escalate, get even more angry and disappointed and worst of all you both end up terrified that you are never going to be able to communicate in a way that allows you to feel understood and attended to. Your arguments and fights get increasingly bitter with accusations and blame used as cannons in an attempt to break down the barricades of your partner's apparent refusal to see it your way. At that point you may think that the only way you can salvage the relationship is to go to couples therapy. Maybe an outside person can be more objective and act as a referee or mediator. Before you go to couples therapy, there are some crucial things you should be aware of:

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Is Family Conflict Making a Friend Out of One Loved One and an Enemy of Another?
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Is Family Conflict Making a Friend Out of One Loved One and an Enemy of Another?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Is Family Conflict Making a Friend Out of One Loved One and an Enemy of Another?

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:54:54+00:00January 30th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

After a heated argument about being late for dinner, thirty-four year Gemma threw insults at her forty year old husband Jordan who told her that she was overreacting. She stormed out of the house when she heard that he had been finishing an online checkers game with a manufacturing client in Russia. Inflamed at being so disrespected and getting no apology to boot, Gemma drove to her mother’s home with a rush of indignant adrenalin propelling her tired body. Her outrage spilled out before her mother Gloria could make sense of the latest problem that Gemma and Jordan cycled though in their stormy three year childless marriage.

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Breaking Up Doesn’t Have To Be so Hard To Do!
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Breaking Up Doesn’t Have To Be so Hard To Do!

Breakups and Separation, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Breaking Up Doesn’t Have To Be so Hard To Do!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:19+00:00January 25th, 2013|Breakups and Separation, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Do you want to break up with your partner but just can't bring yourself to do it? Are you wracked with guilt every time you think of telling your partner that you want to end the relationship? Do you feel ungrateful and selfish because your partner is an angel and hasn't done anything to deserve being rejected? What you want most of all is for your partner to be the one to walk away so you don't have to be the bad guy. But that doesn't happen, so you start being a little bad here and there hoping your partner will stop loving you and break up the relationship. This cycle of silent and undercover attempts at breaking up can go on for ever and take up a lot of energy. You can get depressed and turn into the exact evil monster that you were trying to avoid, just to set yourself free. Mandy and Chris were both trapped in the same spot.

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Complimenting Your Partner Can Cause Relationship Problems!
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Complimenting Your Partner Can Cause Relationship Problems!

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Complimenting Your Partner Can Cause Relationship Problems!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T18:44:37+00:00January 22nd, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Thirty-two year upwardly mobile grocery store manager Danny approached life with eager optimism. His colleagues and workers revered him for acknowledging their good points, but his thirty year old wife Rayna, a successful beautician threw his compliments in the trash as if they were dirty wasted hair clippings from her customers. Danny’s patience was tested to its limits one evening when he came home and found Rayna tearing her hair out with problems printing out flyers for a special offer at her salon.

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Self-help For Couples That Actually Works!
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Self-help For Couples That Actually Works!

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues

Self-help For Couples That Actually Works!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:47:38+00:00January 12th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Have you tried reading self-help books on making your relationship work and found the advice sensible but impractical? Perhaps you have been on couples retreats, gone to couples workshops and taken courses on communicating with your partner, gaining intimacy with your spouse and managing conflict with your loved one - but still not succeeded with any degree of consistency. There is a good reason why self-help materials and experiential workshops fail - and that is because you are being taught the skills that work for couples who can do relationships well naturally. They don't have to work through the same tensions, challenges and fears that you do. So when you come to putting those skills into practice the fears that you carry about losing your loved one, driving them away, being cheated on, not being good enough and so on get in the way of the success. It's not that you lack skills or need to learn new ones. It's the fears and insecurities producing relationship stress that get in your way.

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Expressing Hurt Saves Relationships While Anger Causes Relationship Breakups
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Expressing Hurt Saves Relationships While Anger Causes Relationship Breakups

Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues, separation counseling

Expressing Hurt Saves Relationships While Anger Causes Relationship Breakups

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-11T17:21:51+00:00January 9th, 2013|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues, separation counseling|

Two years into their engagement, twenty-nine year old medical billings specialist Rachel vowed to leave her thirty-two year old fiancé Brian, a banker and property developer – for the millionth time. She was full of anger and bitterness about Brian’s willingness to help his sister manage her financial problems while making excuses about planning their long awaited vacation to Italy. Brian felt torn between Rachel and members of his family. He wanted to share himself with them all, but it was becoming increasingly difficult to do so without alienating one or other of his loved ones. He liked the fact that he was wanted and needed but he hated being put on the spot over and over again to choose between them and live with the discomfort of divided loyalties.

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Getting The Most Out of Couples Counseling
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Getting The Most Out of Couples Counseling

Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy

Getting The Most Out of Couples Counseling

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:40:35+00:00January 5th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy|

If you are considering couples counseling then you must have tried hard to solve your relationship problems by yourself and not got the results you hoped for. Perhaps you have threatened your partner with couples counseling when it seemed that there was no other option but separation or divorce. Many couples come into therapy to get validated and feel that their partner is the one that needs the counseling. Couples therapy rarely works when there is an agenda of blame. However there is an even more important reason why couples therapy may not work. It is when the discussion pieces in the counseling session isn't maintained from one meeting to the next because the couple don't realize the importance of practicing the skills of staying connected in a positive way outside of the therapist's consulting rooms.

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Sharing Emotions Promotes Bonding That Supports You In Crisis
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Sharing Emotions Promotes Bonding That Supports You In Crisis

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Sharing Emotions Promotes Bonding That Supports You In Crisis

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:47:12+00:00January 1st, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Thirty-five year old Insurance underwriter Taylor was badly shaken in a bad road accident on his way home from the office. His car had been pushed into the vehicle in front by a driver talking on a cell phone, causing a massive pile up. He was in shock and shaking when he got home later that night. The events played over and over again in his mind trying to make sense of the carnage, wearing him out in the process. Telling his thirty year old partner Joyce, a florist, about the incident skimmed the top off the overwhelming feeling, but he still felt alone and anxious.

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Save Your Marriage By Letting In Your Partner’s Support
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Save Your Marriage By Letting In Your Partner’s Support

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues, Uncategorized

Save Your Marriage By Letting In Your Partner’s Support

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-11T16:26:35+00:00December 12th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues, Uncategorized|

On top of a grueling day at work dealing with a staff shortage and patient crises, thirty-three year old physician Phil felt another load heaped on him as soon as he got home. His twenty-eight year old wife Melissa demanded he take care of the dogs and bring in the heavy shopping items while she got ready for her night shift at the hospital where she was acting charge nurse. He had driven home with the weighty concern that he had given a patient the wrong medication in all the chaos of the day. His anxiety levels shot up as he started to imagine being sued, let go from the clinic and having his medical license revoked. He felt like a slave to the pressure put on him by Melissa’s trivial needs compared to the terror he was experiencing in relation to the seriousness of his situation.

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How To Trust In Relationships
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How To Trust In Relationships

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

How To Trust In Relationships

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:19+00:00December 8th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you have trouble trusting your partner even though they are committed and loyal? Are you always on the look out for signs of deception and betrayal? Is it hard for you to trust in your relationship because you can't believe that anyone could really want you for yourself? Perhaps you have had bad experiences where you felt like someones toy while they were waiting for the real thing to come along. Maybe you have been rejected and lost hope that you get a good looking, smart person to be attracted to you and choose to stay in the relationship. All these hurtful experiences stopped you from learning how to trust in relationships.

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