https://losangeleswestsidetherapy.com/couples-counseling/How are you wired for love? Wired for love – alternating power plays Cole, a 36 year-old painter and decorator adored his wife Mona, a 38-year-old city administrator had been through grueling breakups with their previous partners and come together to fill the holes and soothe each other. But as the wounds of loss [...]
Understanding and Tracking Relational Trauma in the Body Tracking relational trauma is essential, because it gets activated when you least expect it. Trauma survivors may not realize that they have been emotionally traumatized; and so are oblivious to their reactions to others during a bout of activation. Their reactions are prescribed and they are not [...]
Trauma in the Body Trauma in the body shows up in a variety of ways, often combined with one another, for example insomnia and back pain. Trauma in the body is a sign that some parts of your natural development were disturbed and twisted, causing unbearable shock to the system. You were helpless to respond [...]
Parenting an Angry Child – The Three ‘A’s of success Parenting an angry child who can be unpredictable, explosive and overwhelming is one of the toughest jobs ever. To be scared of your own child who seems threatening, sets up a massive rush of adrenaline in you the parent – just as your child is [...]
Five Ways to Mange Post-pandemic Anxiety About Changes in Family Life A great deal of attention is being focused on adjusting to a post-pandemic world as vaccinations make it safer to do so. A bunch of recent articles talk about post-pandemic social anxiety of being in crowded places and having rusty social skills in general. [...]
Feeling Depressed? What are the Signs of Depression? Signs of depression seem obvious at first, right? – you feel low, or down; lack energy and motivation, and also ‘don’t care.’ But are these actual signs of depression or just reactions to life not going your way? How do you know whether you are just feeling [...]
Ever wonder why you end up fired up with a new years resolution, only to feel defeated a few weeks later? It's usually because you are coming from a place of "should" rather than authentic desire. The 'should' has a built in failure mechanism, where as the natural desire makes it a breeze.
Seven Ways to Say, “I love you,” and Six Ways That Fail. “I love you!” says your partner as they go off to get on with their day. “Love you” says your mom as you end a phone conversation and you say it back. Do you feel loved in that moment? Are you experiencing loving [...]
Mindful Co-parenting During Marital Tensions - Five Ways to Ensure Success Mindful co-parenting involves thinking about how you want to bring up your children, putting it into words, sharing it with each other and planning a strategy of implementation based on nurturing the children - rather than about winning or losing points in the marital [...]
Good Feelings Can Scare you into the Familiar Arms of the Bad Feelings Good feelings turn bad so quick. Damn! You know only too well that pattern of feeling great one minute and then boom, you hear bad news, or your phone runs out of juice – those positive feelings get wiped out in a [...]
