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Fear Based Rules About Feeling Secure in Your Relationship Can End It! Part 6

By |2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00December 7th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues, separation counseling|

Do you often wonder if your partner finds you exciting enough or good enough? Are you constantly worrying about proving your love, commitment and loyalty? Are you living with the fear that they will find someone better and then going overboard to try and make yourself indispensable? Then you are probably insecure and have an unconscious rule about how to feel more secure. That rule may be that you have to fulfill all your partner's needs so that they become dependent on you, and that way they will never leave. Unfortunately it is a fear based rule which only adds stress and conflict to the relationship, making it more likely to end. You are probably experiencing a never ending cycle of fighting and making up and then fighting again.

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The Third Magnet That Attracts You Towards The Wrong Life Partner

By |2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00September 3rd, 2013|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Do you wish you had a crystal ball that you could look into and find out why you repeatedly go for the wrong person no matter how hard you try to avoid the same mistake? You may not realize it, but you do - deep inside you there is a shiny crystal ball that your unconscious peers at and it gets very excited when it finds three elements that make it go crazy with desire. You are not in control of these three forces, but you can be, by tuning into this, the third in the series of videos that gives you the low down on what the pull that these magnets have on you. Once you become aware of the three magnetic forces that act in unison ( which is why they are so difficult to eradicate) you will have a chance to pause and bring your healthy self to protect you from these strong and powerful magnets that attract you to the 'same person' even though they may look and sound different at first.

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Why You Keep Getting Attracted To The Wrong Person- part 1

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00August 21st, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you think there is something wrong with you because you keep picking the wrong partner? -Do you wonder why you keep getting attracted to the wrong people? There are three reasons why you are compelled to feel a thrill when you meet someone who appears to be exactly what you have been searching for, but ends up disappointing you and stressing you out. It's true that you are searching for a certain person who you want to relate to but you end up feeling defeated and depleted. This video explains the first and most powerful reason why the right person into the wrong partner.

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How To Avoid Stress When Your Spouse Nags At You For Being Unresponsive

By |2016-12-29T19:56:25+00:00August 14th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues, stress|

Are you bothered when your partner blames you for being unresponsive to something they said or did, yet shuts you down the minute you try to share your feelings? You must be intensely frustrated caught in this catch twenty-two trap. That’s exactly how thirty-two year sales director Ian felt when his twenty-nine year old partner Chantal, an office manager, poked and prodded him about whether he enjoyed the elaborate celebration dinner she had thrown for him when he got his recent job promotion. He had been surprised and touched and thanked her during the party. But she kept on fishing for more, wanting to know every detail of his experience after all the guests had gone and well into the next week. She would bring it up out of nowhere irrespective of what they were doing or talking about. If he didn’t jump up and down with joy and praise her for her thoughtfulness she accused him of not liking the party and just pretending to enjoy himself. If he reassured her that it made him happy she countered with the suggestion that he was just saying it to be polite.

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Are your personal goals likely to save your marriage or break it up?

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00July 5th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|

Do you feel that your partner is always putting you down and being superior? Do you want to outdo them at their game? Are you always in competition with one another about who is the more moral, the greater lover, the better at remembering the important things in life? Then your goals may be misaligned, causing stress and risk to your marriage. This video shows you how to detect the motivation behind your goals so that you can evaluate whether your marriage is at risk.

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Continual Separating and reuniting doesn’t have to threaten your relationship!

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00June 24th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, Intimacy, relationship issues, separation counseling|

The way in which you greet and receive your partner after a separation be it momentary for days longs says everything about the health and security of your relationship. Even the shortest of separations from loved ones can cause stress before and after the actual parting. Whether you and your partner separate and reunite every day one of you leaves the other to go to work, to make a phone call to someone else or have to make longer trips that involve a chunk of time away from one another, the disturbance in your emotional state can make reunions uncomfortable. The more insecure you are in your relationship the more uncomfortable and stressful the reunion which may take several minutes, hours, days or weeks to be fully realized.

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How Do You Build Trust in a Relationship When You are Repeatedly Let Down?

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00March 5th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

A month into a pact that 37 year old cosmetologist Katrina made with 39 year old Roger to quit drinking and attend AA meetings, she found an empty liquor bottle in the outside trash can while she was clearing stuff out. Breathless with fury about his lies and his lack of trustworthiness she waited for him to come home from his job at the property management company. She was ready to confront him with the bottle and make him admit and atone for his transgression towards her and their relationship. “You’ve been drinking again, haven’t you?” Katrina scolded. “No, I haven’t!” “Don’t lie. I found this bottle in the trash. It’s the brand you drink, so don’t lie.” Katrina challenged him with a voice oozing with disgust and contempt. “Stop accusing me of stuff. You’ve got no proof. You jump to conclusions without even asking me.” Roger yelled back in an affronted tone. “We’ve been here before. You’re always promising to stop drinking and go to AA but you never do. You’re just a junkie. If it’s not booze then it’s pot or something else. I’m sick of your lies and empty promises.”

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How to Get Your Boyfriend Back After Throwing Him Out

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00March 2nd, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, relationship issues|

Do you regret having lost your cool and thrown your boyfriend out? Are you feeling lost, lonely and guilty that you ended the relationship and can never have it back? Do you feel like you have done permanent damage to your relationship and that he will never come back to you? It's a common experience when you are anxious about getting an ex back.

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Sharing Emotions Promotes Bonding That Supports You In Crisis

By |2017-09-13T20:47:12+00:00January 1st, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Thirty-five year old Insurance underwriter Taylor was badly shaken in a bad road accident on his way home from the office. His car had been pushed into the vehicle in front by a driver talking on a cell phone, causing a massive pile up. He was in shock and shaking when he got home later that night. The events played over and over again in his mind trying to make sense of the carnage, wearing him out in the process. Telling his thirty year old partner Joyce, a florist, about the incident skimmed the top off the overwhelming feeling, but he still felt alone and anxious.

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How To Make Your Boyfriend Love You More and Find a Husband In Him

By |2016-12-13T05:19:19+00:00December 19th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Dating, Intimacy|

On the return flight home from her long autumn trip to Singapore twenty-nine year old artistic director Jody was longing to see her thirty-three year old boyfriend Mike again. She imagined him sweeping her up in his arms, telling her how much he missed her and asking her to marry him as they embraced at the airport. But Mike was at the launch of the new magazine he was editing. He invited her to join him when they touched bases but she wanted him to come to her and refused his offer.

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