Relationship Advice Tips from Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

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photograph copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.


Do you often wonder if your partner finds you exciting enough or good enough?

Are you constantly worrying about proving your love, commitment and loyalty?

Are you living with the fear that they will find someone better and then going overboard to try and make yourself indispensable?

Then you are probably insecure and have an unconscious rule about how to feel more secure.

That rule may be that you have to fulfill all your partner’s needs so that they will never leave.

Unfortunately it is a fear based rule which only adds stress and conflict to the relationship, making it more likely to end.

You are probably experiencing a never ending cycle of fighting and making up and then fighting again.

This video tells the story of a woman who had such a rule and how it was uncovered in couples therapy, enabling her to deal with her insecurities while airing the tensions around trust, loyalty and commitment that helped keep the relationship stable.



copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

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Disclaimer: this video is for informational and educative purposes only. Dr. Raymond is not responsible for any reactions you may have when reading the content or using the suggestions therein. Interacting with this material does not constitute a therapeutic relationship with Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.