If you hate your procrastination brought on by fear of commitment then you may be either ignoring it to get things done or living in limbo. Learn how your body can prompt you to face up to your fears by giving you a sudden attack of flu that disappears as soon as you understand and take care of the fear by sharing responsibility with your loved ones rather than bearing the unbearable load all alone.
Are you afraid that your partner's bad mood will bring you down and rob you of your good mood? If you try unsuccessfully to cheer your partner up so you can both connect from a good place then learn how to understand the tension and gap between you so that you don't feel like a failure. Discover how to come to terms with your varying emotional metabolic rates so that you will both be ready and available to one another when the tense moments have passed.
If you find that you can't get enough of good sex with your partner at some times but hate the thought of it later, you may be at the mercy of a set of mental factors that turn on the green light for short intervals, while staying on red for long spells. In the green light time zones you see each other as desirable and comforting, but during the red light time periods you perceive each other as robots who need to do their duty and kill off intimacy by making demands and comparisons that are impossible to overcome. Learn two ways you can keep the green light on for longer and on a lasting basis for your constant enjoyment of physical intimacy.
Want your relationships to be new and better in 2012? If you try and fail to keep New Years resolutions about being a better person, and having better relationships, then just stop. It's not that you don't have the will power or motivation. It's not that you have no endurance. You just need to tune into your natural built in renewal and rejuvenation mechanisms and use them to refocus your lens on your relationships so that they become more secure and satisfying. Learn three ways you can do that without even trying and literally become 'new' by rewiring your brain and creating constant newness from the inside out.
If you are infuriated when you don't receive an apology when someone has hurt you then you may end up stressed and helpless in your relationships. Learn how to communicate the impact the words and actions of others have on you so that they can tailor their behavior in ways that take your feelings into account.
Are you putting your partner in a role that makes it impossible for you to enjoy a sexual relationship? You may be casting you and your partner in subtle roles that make sex a taboo. Are you looking to be spoiled and wanted to the exclusion of all others? Those wishes may be getting in your way. Learn what those roles are, why they have such a grip on your sex life, and learn how to remove them.
It's infuriating and stressful when your loved ones ask you for your opinion but never heed it! They keep boosting you up by wanting your advice but then drop you like a hot potato as soon as you have given your wisdom and caring. It causes conflict that makes relationships tense and uncomfortable. Learn three ways in which you and your loved one can find room for both sets of views instead of going for one judge and jury.
Don't go down feeling shocked and rejected. Use your surprise, anger and sadness to discover what you missed when you thought everything was just fine. Learn to read the signs before the relationship ends so that next time you will be able to act in a way that makes it work before it is too late.
If someone says they 'understand' and then sets out to change your feelings you are unlikely to feel truly understood. For you to feel like you are fully tuned into, takes acceptance and tolerance. When you are being pushed to change there is no tolerance for your feelings and that is what makes you feel unheard and misunderstood.
Panic attacks can shock and disturb your sense of equilibrium. Understanding their message can help you deal with the unfinished business left over from your past life. But first you have to get past the shame about having feelings, thoughts and needs that you no longer approve of. Panic attacks fill your radar with shame and force you to deal with things you have avoided but cannot afford to ignore any longer.
