Panic attacks can make you feel like you are going crazy but they have a purpose. Understanding the struggles and traps you feel caught up in take away the shame and helplessness you feel when you are hostage to the panic attacks. Read John's story about the conflict he had making choices about his life and taking care of family- his panic attacks came to force him to face his dilemma and be truly in charge of his life.
Pretending you aren't hurt when things go wrong in your relationships may make you feel strong in the moment. But suppressed and denied hurt turns into hostile contempt and wish for revenge- the ideal recipe for breakups and divorce. Learn how to express your hurt without being accusatory or punishing. Make room for feeling better and more connected when you have given your hurt it's rightful voice.
When you are upset that you aren't as perfect as you aimed for, you may criticize yourself, feel bad about yourself and then withdraw from the people you love. Your sense of being imperfect makes you fearful of getting close. You turn inward and shut loved ones out, making your intimate connections dissolve. Research indicates that the self-critical part of perfectionism is the most destructive force to intimacy.
When you get that feeling that there's no point saying anything because you "know" how your loved one will react, you relive a frozen image of the past and kill any chances of connection. Get this tip on beginning a conversation to share your ideas, experience and feelings by asking questions that keep you both firmly grounded and fresh in your ever changing relationship and enjoy the contact!
Don't let your emotional roller coaster make you feel insecure in your relationships. Why go from feeling ecstatic one minute to invisible the next. Learn how to manage your feelings so that you stay connected and ride out the bad times by holding onto and using the good moments when you store and access them to your advantage. Save yourself the hassle and stress of unpredictable interactions by watching this video and learning how to keep a balanced emotional connection with your loved ones.
Dealing with personal failure by blaming someone or something else leads to bitterness, hostility and sickness. Stress put on the relationships destabilizes your immune system and makes it even more difficult for you to function and achieve your goals. Learn 3 ways to avoid blame and bitterness by collaborating with your loved ones and managing the negative emotions to protect your health and enjoy relationship stability.
If you live life bracing yourself for the next attack of unfair blame that you expect to come your way from loved ones, then you are not living at all! Get a practical tip in this video about how to listen and interpret what you hear as putting the responsibility on your shoulders for everything that goes wrong. Get out of the blame, shame and revenge cycles that destroy relationships. Open up conversations that put you on an equal footing with your loved ones, so you can enjoy your connections.
When the responsibility of caring for your partner feels burdensome the fun disappears and you want to end it, but can't let go. The conflict and guilt makes you sick and gives you a temporary respite - putting decisions on hold. Discover how to keep the romance alive and exciting while sharing responsibility.
Doing things you know you should do just to avoid guilt means you are reacting to bad feelings.It is a harsh stick that never stops beating you. Guilt is a negative motivator stopping you from ever doing things out of joy, happiness, excitement or for self-improvement. Learn how to throw the guilt out of the window and get back in touch with your true motivation to have warm relationships just because you are you and not because you have to earn it or get punished when you don't do as you should. Make space for your authentic motivation and see how easy it is to get things done!
Despairing about the fact that flirting isn't getting you results? Perhaps you are using the wrong style of flirting to get what you want. Which of the five styles of flirting matches your needs? Find out if you are using the right style of flirting to get the relationship you want.
