“I don’t know why I wait till the last minute to do things I want to do.” This is what Tessa, a 35-year-old natural birth coach told me after a series of realizations that she only acts when there is a sense of urgency – propelling her to act in the moment, even though [...]
Pre-empty nest fears come at you suddenly, and gradually invade your waking hours. Pre-empty nest fears start when your child says, “I want to make my own play date!” It’s that bitter sweet moment when you are simultaneously relieved that your child is pushing towards doing things independently but also doesn’t need you in [...]
How Rumination and Insecurity Become Team Players in Romantic Breakups Rumination and insecurity go hand in hand. Insecurity is a destabilizing experience. It takes the ground from under you. There is nothing to hold onto because you feel lost, wobbly and untethered. Along comes a rope to cling to – a mental strategy [...]
Good Feelings Can Scare you into the Familiar Arms of the Bad Feelings Good feelings turn bad so quick. Damn! You know only too well that pattern of feeling great one minute and then boom, you hear bad news, or your phone runs out of juice – those positive feelings get wiped out in a [...]
Loneliness Anxiety Loneliness anxiety is one of the hardest things to bear Loneliness anxiety is a wounding and scary feeling. Loneliness anxiety is an existential threat. It’s a sense of not existing in the mind of your loved ones – as if you don’t exist; that you don’t have a place on the radar of [...]
Has your loved one told you that they want nothing more to do with you until you learn how to manage your anger? Are you scared that you will lose your loved one for ever, be alone and miserable for the rest of your life? Do you wish you could just cut out that angry part of you and then live happily ever after? Then you must be feeling even more angry that you can't get rid of that angry monster inside you. Watch this video and learn why you are so angry that other people make relationships with you conditional on you taming your anger!
Do you get upset when your loved one wants to spend time with a friend or a relative? Does it feel like you are being discarded or abandoned? Are you also angry and ashamed of your feelings since you “know” that there is nothing disloyal or sinister in their motives? You don’t know whether to give into the feelings and have it out with your loved one or tell yourself to suck it up, grow up and step up! You find that if you ignore your feelings, then you take the risk of nursing the pain indefinitely and that isn’t appealing. If you show your hurt and anger then you risk feeling ashamed of your childish behavior and that doesn’t you feel good in the relationship.
The award ceremony was well under way but there was still no sign of Larry. With a sinking heart Yvonne took her place in line to receive her diploma. The shouts and hugs of congratulations became a blur as her eyes kept scanning the huge hall for her elder brother. Yvonne's friends honored her achievement with flowers, gifts and affection. Yet she was the pooper at her own party. Larry had broken his promise. Choking back tears of acute disappointment she went through the motions of smiling as she thanked her thoughtful pals.
blaming yourself for things going wrong can save your relationship but ultimately make you drown in bitterness. The stress of swallowing it all weakens your immune system and causes depression, gastric problems and eating disorders. Learn how to share experiences with loved ones so that you can participate in a more equitable, secure, stable and safe relationship that turns the bitterness into sweetness.
