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Couples Communication Issues – Part 3- Interaction Styles
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Couples Communication Issues – Part 3- Interaction Styles

Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy

Couples Communication Issues – Part 3- Interaction Styles

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:32:30+00:00January 4th, 2016|Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy|

west los angeles couples counseling Do you walk away from your partner when they start talking to you in ways that seem critical and condemnatory? Maybe your partner does little things to deliberately annoy you while pretending to be angelic on the surface? This style of communicating has a huge impact and cause big feelings, often leading to erruptions. Actions set out to send a big message of protest or of having power and control over your partner can be very useful when you don't want to argue, or when it isn't comfortable to let two different points of view coexist in the same space. But there are some drawbacks - it avoids talking, discussing, exploring and understanding. Without words, there is no appreciation of each others intent, motive, hurt, anxiety, fear, expectation or desire. There is only protest, punishment, revenge, an attempt to be control, and one up-manship.

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Couples Communication Issues – Part 2 – The Approach
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Couples Communication Issues – Part 2 – The Approach

Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy

Couples Communication Issues – Part 2 – The Approach

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:23:03+00:00December 29th, 2015|Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy|

communication issues in couples therapy The approach you take when you initiate a conversation with your spouse determines whether or not you get through, or stay outside feeling unseen and unheard. In this second of the series on couples communication issues, you will learn why your partner shuts down, shuts you out and shuts down the relationship. You will also discover how your expectations of your partner's words and intentions can effect receptivity, making the difference between being invited in, or being shut out.

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Dating Someone Who is Divorced- Six Mistakes To Avoid
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Dating Someone Who is Divorced- Six Mistakes To Avoid

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Dating Someone Who is Divorced- Six Mistakes To Avoid

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:12+00:00October 5th, 2015|couples therapy, Dating, separation counseling|

Have you met the love of your life, but feel uneasy because your partner is divorced? Do you wonder whether their history intruding on your new and exciting relationship? Are you wondering if your lover will leave you and go back to their ex, because their family before you is first and will always be more magnetic than you? Dating a person who is divorced when you yourself have never been married is a challenge and can stir up a lot of discomfort, leeriness and loss of self-confidence.

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4 Ways Women Cause Marriage Trouble By Consulting a Family Member
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4 Ways Women Cause Marriage Trouble By Consulting a Family Member

Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy

4 Ways Women Cause Marriage Trouble By Consulting a Family Member

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-14T20:36:15+00:00September 18th, 2015|Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy|

Are you frustrated and angry that you never know what's going on with your spouse and resent having to ask? Maybe you feel that your partner is not matching your expectations but have given up on trying to get through. If you are the husband you probably keep it in, make jokes about marriage with your friends, and try to keep the peace at home. But you are not likely to go to your family and talk about it - not to them, and especially not to or with your wife! But, if you are the wife, you may drop little hints here and there to your husband that he is disappointing or annoying you, maybe even hurting you by not being as involved as you would like.

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8 Stages to Getting Past Being Cheated On
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8 Stages to Getting Past Being Cheated On

Cheating and Affairs

8 Stages to Getting Past Being Cheated On

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:57:42+00:00August 13th, 2015|Cheating and Affairs|

Sorting out the laundry one Thursday evening, Marsha, a 37 year-old antique dealer found a receipt in her 40-year-old husband Terry’s jeans pocket. Stunned into paralysis as she unfolded the crumpled paper, she knew immediately that she had been cheated on. A hotel receipt, paid for in cash, for a large suite and room service obviously for more than one person. With a throbbing head, trembling hands and a hot flush enveloping her, Marsha called her best friend. Toni was the only one Marsha could trust to understand and make her feel better. After sharing her shock and realizing that Terry had been cheating, a montage of images flashed through her mind like a dizzy slide show. Signs that she had ignored over the last few months now stood out and wrapped her over the knuckles for not paying closer attention.

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Is Your Relationship Safe From Negative Comparisons Against Your Partner??
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Is Your Relationship Safe From Negative Comparisons Against Your Partner??

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Is Your Relationship Safe From Negative Comparisons Against Your Partner??

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:12+00:00July 29th, 2015|Anxiety therapy|

Getting dressed to go out to a friend’s house for a dinner party, thirty-three-year-old realtor Mara felt a pang of jealousy invade her body. An image of Ray, their host, always smartly dressed contrasted sharply with her thirty-five-year-old husband Seth, an entertainment lawyer, togged out in shorts, Hawaiian shirt and flip-flops! Driving to the event was uncomfortable. Mara wanted to disown her husband. She felt out of alignment with him and when they arrived at Ray’s place, envy crept up from the pit of her stomach to the roots of her hair. She snapped at Seth, openly disparaging him in front of others.

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Four Ways To Understand a Sexless Marriage and Make it Work
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Four Ways To Understand a Sexless Marriage and Make it Work

Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues

Four Ways To Understand a Sexless Marriage and Make it Work

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 16th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues|

What is a sexless marriage? Is it lack of intercourse, or lack of any sexual contact? Is affection a part of a sexless marriage, or is touching not allowed? Maybe a sexless marriage is when there is no sexual contact and intercourse for more than a year! Is it a lack of libido , or is it intercourse that is conducted as a ritual or routine duty?

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The 5 Biggest Love Myths That Underpin Your Unhappiness
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The 5 Biggest Love Myths That Underpin Your Unhappiness

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

The 5 Biggest Love Myths That Underpin Your Unhappiness

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 2nd, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Most of us grow up with myths about what love is and ought to be like if it was real and trustworthy. We get it from fairy tales, love songs, country music, movies, folk lore and hearing our friends and family talk about their longings. We pay attention to the "happy ever after" ending in stories and dream that we too could be valuable and worthwhile enough to inspire that kind of devotional love. But inevitably we get disappointed, heartbroken, betrayed, abandoned, or have to share that love with others. We can't stand it and believe that it is not normal. Something is either wrong with the person we love, or something is wrong with us!

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The Most Damaging Secrets You Keep From Your Partner
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The Most Damaging Secrets You Keep From Your Partner

Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

The Most Damaging Secrets You Keep From Your Partner

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00May 22nd, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Is it an affair? NO Is it something shady from your past? NO Is it your past identity? NO Is it something about your parental or cultural heritage? N0 So what are these worms that eat away at your relationship, called secrets?

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How to Juggle a Demading Career and Marriage
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How to Juggle a Demading Career and Marriage

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

How to Juggle a Demading Career and Marriage

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T15:31:13+00:00May 12th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you go to work each day feeling a bit guilty that you spent a few extra minutes in bed cuddling with your partner? Perhaps you get anxious on your way home from work, knowing that you stayed late to finish a project or deal with customer service problems. It's hard for you to give equal weight to your job and your marriage when they both mean a great deal to you. You don't like the feeling of having to take time from one part of your life to give to another, and it's a conflict that you can't seem to resolve. You know in your gut that your marriage is the key foundation that sustains you and makes you feel secure. So how can you make the time you spend with your partner special and free of work and other intrusions?

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