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4 Ways Women Cause Marriage Trouble By Consulting a Family Member
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4 Ways Women Cause Marriage Trouble By Consulting a Family Member

Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy

4 Ways Women Cause Marriage Trouble By Consulting a Family Member

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-14T20:36:15+00:00September 18th, 2015|Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy|

Are you frustrated and angry that you never know what's going on with your spouse and resent having to ask? Maybe you feel that your partner is not matching your expectations but have given up on trying to get through. If you are the husband you probably keep it in, make jokes about marriage with your friends, and try to keep the peace at home. But you are not likely to go to your family and talk about it - not to them, and especially not to or with your wife! But, if you are the wife, you may drop little hints here and there to your husband that he is disappointing or annoying you, maybe even hurting you by not being as involved as you would like.

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Pressing The Refresh Button On a Crumbling Marriage
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Pressing The Refresh Button On a Crumbling Marriage

Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues

Pressing The Refresh Button On a Crumbling Marriage

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:12+00:00July 21st, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Have you hit a really rough spot in your marriage making it feel as if it's once strong and reliable foundation is about to crumble? Then you must be feeling very insecure and stressed. Do you wonder why your tried and trusted ways of being together and talking about things is no longer working? Perhaps the old ways are exactly the problem! When you first met your needs were different and you set up a system that suited you at the time. But now you have matured, become smarter with more experience. You may want the same things, but not in quite the same way. How do you have a conversation about that without making your partner feel criticized? How do you navigate without having a conflict?

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Do You and Your Partner Agree on Your Goals for Marriage?
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Do You and Your Partner Agree on Your Goals for Marriage?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues

Do You and Your Partner Agree on Your Goals for Marriage?

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:55:49+00:00July 7th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Six months into their relationship, 35-year-old part time banker Simone’s patience was wearing thin. When if ever would 39-year-old reporter Miguel feel comfortable enough to propose marriage? She wanted to make sure she wasn’t dating a guy who would string her along and then quit. She thought she had done so by asking him directly and having got the answer she wanted, assumed it was just a matter of time. But there was no marriage proposal happened. Miguel spent more time away from Simone, and when he was around he was tired, played on his phone or went out with old friends. Yet he replied that he did want to marry but there were fears he had to overcome.

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Four Ways To Understand a Sexless Marriage and Make it Work
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Four Ways To Understand a Sexless Marriage and Make it Work

Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues

Four Ways To Understand a Sexless Marriage and Make it Work

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 16th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues|

What is a sexless marriage? Is it lack of intercourse, or lack of any sexual contact? Is affection a part of a sexless marriage, or is touching not allowed? Maybe a sexless marriage is when there is no sexual contact and intercourse for more than a year! Is it a lack of libido , or is it intercourse that is conducted as a ritual or routine duty?

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The 5 Biggest Love Myths That Underpin Your Unhappiness
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The 5 Biggest Love Myths That Underpin Your Unhappiness

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

The 5 Biggest Love Myths That Underpin Your Unhappiness

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 2nd, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Most of us grow up with myths about what love is and ought to be like if it was real and trustworthy. We get it from fairy tales, love songs, country music, movies, folk lore and hearing our friends and family talk about their longings. We pay attention to the "happy ever after" ending in stories and dream that we too could be valuable and worthwhile enough to inspire that kind of devotional love. But inevitably we get disappointed, heartbroken, betrayed, abandoned, or have to share that love with others. We can't stand it and believe that it is not normal. Something is either wrong with the person we love, or something is wrong with us!

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The Most Damaging Secrets You Keep From Your Partner
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The Most Damaging Secrets You Keep From Your Partner

Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

The Most Damaging Secrets You Keep From Your Partner

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00May 22nd, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Is it an affair? NO Is it something shady from your past? NO Is it your past identity? NO Is it something about your parental or cultural heritage? N0 So what are these worms that eat away at your relationship, called secrets?

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How to Juggle a Demading Career and Marriage
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How to Juggle a Demading Career and Marriage

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

How to Juggle a Demading Career and Marriage

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T15:31:13+00:00May 12th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you go to work each day feeling a bit guilty that you spent a few extra minutes in bed cuddling with your partner? Perhaps you get anxious on your way home from work, knowing that you stayed late to finish a project or deal with customer service problems. It's hard for you to give equal weight to your job and your marriage when they both mean a great deal to you. You don't like the feeling of having to take time from one part of your life to give to another, and it's a conflict that you can't seem to resolve. You know in your gut that your marriage is the key foundation that sustains you and makes you feel secure. So how can you make the time you spend with your partner special and free of work and other intrusions?

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Men and Women Have Different Fears that Prevent Them From Discussing Marriage
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Men and Women Have Different Fears that Prevent Them From Discussing Marriage

Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy

Men and Women Have Different Fears that Prevent Them From Discussing Marriage

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T15:31:30+00:00May 1st, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy|

Gordon was attracted to his wife because she appeared independent, competent, able to handle his anxieties as well as offer comfort and security. After he married her, he discovered that she wanted to be taken care of, play and enjoy her pets - his world crashed. He felt that he had lost the object of his dreams, the security he thought he had garnered, and the tender care that he believed was on tap. The shock of finding out that the tables had been turned on him made him furious and scared. But he didn't dare talk about it to his wife Maria. It was too scary a proposition.

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How to Turn Envy into Togetherness
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How to Turn Envy into Togetherness

Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues, Uncategorized

How to Turn Envy into Togetherness

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00April 15th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues, Uncategorized|

If you have ever felt envious in the tiniest bit you will know how it can eat your soul alive and make you unavailable for an emotionally intimate relationship. You will be so filled with envious rage that others have what you should have, deserve and have been deprived of that there is no room for anything else. On the other hand if you have felt the envious rage of a loved one thrown your way, you may be blindsided by its force and intensity. You may not be able to see where the rage is coming from, let alone understand that there is envy behind it, because to you there is no reason for it. Either way it's important that envy doesn't destabilize your relationship. Without recognition and attention to reducing it, envy shows itself in aggressive ways, turning an accepting love into one of possession.

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Seven Healthy Ways To Regain Power In Your Relationship
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Seven Healthy Ways To Regain Power In Your Relationship

Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues

Seven Healthy Ways To Regain Power In Your Relationship

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:56:52+00:00March 31st, 2015|Couples Counseling, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Overwhelmed with the prospect of having to manage the finances of the household, thirty-three-year-old Andy gave his power over to his thirty-two-year-old wife who was a whiz at it. He enjoyed the lack of responsibility and the chance not to have to worry about money. UNTIL his wife complained bitterly that he was not pulling his weight. He would get involved for a short time to appease her, but soon drifted back into his old ways until the next time she exploded. Sometimes he acted like a robot not to feel the shame and blame and other times he was passive aggressive, playing the martyr to her abuser roles. What if Andy chose one or more of the healthier ways of owning and exerting his power so that he didn't have to give it away and get it back in the less healthy ways?

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