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Seven Reasons You Might Collude With Your Partner To Flirt With Your Best Friend
Seven Reasons You Might Collude With Your Partner To Flirt With Your Best Friend

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Seven Reasons You Might Collude With Your Partner To Flirt With Your Best Friend

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00January 6th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Does it bother you when you catch your partner flirting with your best friend? Do you swing from thinking it's good that they are pals, to wondering if both of them are betraying you? It must be very uncomfortable for you to be caught in this trap. Do you confront one or other and risk being seen as overly sensitive or jealous? What if you hurt one or both when they feel that you mistrust them and that the friendship and romantic relationship are in jepoardy? Do you wait to see what develops? Do you nip things in the bud?

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How To Make Sure Your Marriage Doesn’t End in Separation Before its Too Late!
How To Make Sure Your Marriage Doesn’t End in Separation Before its Too Late!

Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, separation counseling

How To Make Sure Your Marriage Doesn’t End in Separation Before its Too Late!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00December 23rd, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, separation counseling|

Do you constantly weight up the pros and cons of breaking up and separating, hoping against hope that some miracle will happen and save you from bitter disappointment? Then there is definitely something there that you can work on. You don't really want to separate, but you can't live a life of pretense any longer. You missed out on premarital counseling when you might have seen more of your partner and revised your ideas of married life. So what can you do now?

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Four Reasons Why PreMarital Counseling Ensures You Truly Know The Person You Plan to Marry
Four Reasons Why PreMarital Counseling Ensures You Truly Know The Person You Plan to Marry

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Four Reasons Why PreMarital Counseling Ensures You Truly Know The Person You Plan to Marry

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00November 26th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Filled with excitement and carried away by romance you imagine the fairy tale of living happily ever after. You do everything you can to protect yourself against anticipating the adjustments you will have to make when living together as fallible human beings. But marriage turns the rose colored glasses you wore into lenses of disappointment, resentment, anger and mistrust - especially when your impending marriage is primarily an exit strategy from controlling or rejecting and abandoning parents.

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Two Signs That Your Partner is Not a Commitment Phobe, Just Not Into You!
Two Signs That Your Partner is Not a Commitment Phobe, Just Not Into You!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Two Signs That Your Partner is Not a Commitment Phobe, Just Not Into You!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00November 14th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Have you ever wondered whether your partner doesn't want you, or doesn't want to commit to anyone? You've probably tried hard to evoke that spark in your partner that touches your heart and makes you feel like you are "the one!" Sometimes you feel he has finally chosen to invest in you, and a few days later you feel empty as he withdraws the total deposit! Is he Jekyll and Hyde? He says all the right things and does what's expected but you can tell his heart isn't into it. You are left confused and wondering whether there is something wrong with him whether you are the problem. Your friends and family tell you that your partner is probably a commitment phobe! But how do you find out if he isn't interested in committing to anyone, or just to you.

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Five Ways to Shift From the “I” Body Language to the “We” Stance in Your Relationship
Five Ways to Shift From the “I” Body Language to the “We” Stance in Your Relationship

Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Five Ways to Shift From the “I” Body Language to the “We” Stance in Your Relationship

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00October 31st, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Do you know what messages your body language gives your partner? Do you know how to read the signals of defense rather than togetherness? When you are fighting for your point of you, to be made right, and win the battle, then your relationship is in jeopoardy. So alert yourself to the behaviors that stress the "I" part of you, where the couple part is demoted. Then tune into the behaviors that stress the "we" part of the couple so your relationship can survive and thrive.

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Bullet Proof Your Relationship Against Your Partner Leaving You
Bullet Proof Your Relationship Against Your Partner Leaving You

Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, Intimacy, separation counseling

Bullet Proof Your Relationship Against Your Partner Leaving You

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00October 14th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, Intimacy, separation counseling|

Imagine if your partner suddenly said they were going to leave you? Would you be shocked, shaken, stunned and destabilized? You would feel insecure and stressed. Then you were probably imagining that everything was fine and that you had the near perfect relationship. Hardly any arguments, shared jobs and good sex. But what about the emotional intimacy?

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Ten Things You Should Never Do On A First Date
Ten Things You Should Never Do On A First Date

Dating, Intimacy

Ten Things You Should Never Do On A First Date

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00September 29th, 2014|Dating, Intimacy|

First dates can make you nervous because you have high hopes but fear being disappointed. You don't know whether you will be good enough for your date, or whether your partner will meet your requirements. All this pressure can wreck your date if you don't get grounded Your date will go fine is you are present in the here-and-now The best way of being present and available for a date is to avoid the following ten things

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Imagine Couples Therapy with Ray Rice and His Wife!
Imagine Couples Therapy with Ray Rice and His Wife!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Imagine Couples Therapy with Ray Rice and His Wife!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00September 19th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

The fact that Ray Rice's finance married him despite being physically abused, means that the relationship was and continues to be extremely important to her. When someone is more afraid of losing a relationship than of being abused, they live with stress and insecurity, trying hard to make sure never to anger their partner. But that doesn't mean they have to live like that forever more! Attending couples therapy can make both Ray and his wife relate on a level that keeps their marriage strong but without the threat or experience of physical, verbal or emotional abuse.

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Six Things Men Want Their Women To Know But Are Too Afraid To Tell Them
Six Things Men Want Their Women To Know But Are Too Afraid To Tell Them

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy

Six Things Men Want Their Women To Know But Are Too Afraid To Tell Them

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00August 25th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy|

Ladies, did you know that men aren't just interested in sex and actually want to play and have fun with you? Research published in July 2014 from Columbia University School of Public Health found that young men want emotional closeness and not just sex. The American Sociology Society reported in August 2014 that it is women who have affairs do so for the sex when their passions aren't met by their husbands - they aren't interested in emotional intimacy or divorce. When you get too serious about being the 'perfect' partner your man feels that he no longer means anything to you, except a trophy, a 'Mr. Fixit' or an object of sex - just so you get to feel like you are doing your duty as a ma

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How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy
How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00August 18th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Most couples I see in my therapy office say they want to feel like they are 'on the same team' and 'on the same page', but when we explore how they live their lives, there is very little sign of togetherness. Couples usually divide up the jobs that need to get done, and want recognition for it. So they spend their times separate from one and other and only come together for the short moment to get a pat on the back. Couples try to get their ideas and strategies for making life smooth onto the top of the list, without collaborating and making a joint list where they both have a valuable place.

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