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White Lies And Whoopers Make You Sick, Depressed And Cut Off From loved Ones.

Do you find yourself telling little white lies to avoid arguments or to avoid hurting or enraging a friend, loved one or colleague? Then you are not alone. It’s human and understandable when you want to get out of a mess or stop one from happening. But did you know that even the smallest of lies can make you sick, feel bad about yourself, demotivate you and ultimately destroy your relationships? A crisis that rocked Winston’s peace of mind forced him to come to terms with the damage he was doing to himself when he constantly lied to his girlfriend and others in the mistaken belief that he was taking care of their feelings. After a series of lies that became part of his way of keeping the status quo he found himself with a constant sinus infection, fatigue and anxiety about his self-worth.

By |2017-09-14T20:28:46+00:00September 18th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, Uncategorized|Comments Off on White Lies And Whoopers Make You Sick, Depressed And Cut Off From loved Ones.

The Secret To Getting Loved Ones To Believe And Accept Your Facts!

Do you get frustrated when your friends and loved ones just don't accept what you are trying to share? Are you so fired up to connect with loved ones in a place of mutual agreement that you try to back up your facts with evidence from gurus, books and famous people? Then your anxiety about being in the same place of shared understanding in order to feel connected gets in the way of your credibility. Learn how your anxiety to connect masks the facts and gets you more stressed, anxious and frustrated. Your loved ones are least likely to listen and accept what you are trying to convey when your anxiety about connecting takes center stage. They aren't going to trust that you have something meaningful to offer as you seem more invested in convincing them than believing in your own truth.

By |2017-09-13T20:41:57+00:00September 14th, 2012|Anxiety therapy|Comments Off on The Secret To Getting Loved Ones To Believe And Accept Your Facts!

Ease low back pain with forgiveness rather than anger

Garret found it hard to move on from the experience. He made abusive statements about the driver who cut him. His body became tense and stiff as if he was protecting himself from being taken off guard again. Garret got another attack of low back pain that always seemed to affect him when he was angry and unable to do anything about it. It reminded him of that feeling of outrage and helplessness when Astrid broke her promise by choosing her family over his for the big holiday celebrations. He had felt deeply betrayed and disregarded. He had never forgiven her disloyalty. He wasn’t going to let that happen again this year. He couldn’t allow himself to forgive and forget because that would be asking for more.

By |2017-09-13T19:22:07+00:00September 13th, 2012|stress|Comments Off on Ease low back pain with forgiveness rather than anger

Fibromyalgia is Linked to Childhood Stress and Unprocessed Negative Emotions

Fibromyalgia made it hard for 46 year old Vera to get her legs out of bed in the morning. As she moved toward the bathroom and began her toilette the pangs of pain moved to her hands, head and neck. It brought tears to her eyes. It made her angry to think that Kurt hadn’t even thought of organizing things around the house to make life a little easier for her. Vera remembered the arguments about accompanying her on doctors appointments and got even more angry. But she never said anything to him. She turned her mind to the support group she would attend later that day, although it wasn’t successful in easing her physical discomfort.

By |2017-09-11T18:41:25+00:00September 13th, 2012|stress|Comments Off on Fibromyalgia is Linked to Childhood Stress and Unprocessed Negative Emotions

Stress, fear of disapproval and rejection brings on Tinnitus

The thought of spending five hours at his parents’ anniversary party made Roger feel tired and anxious. That’s when the ringing in his ears started. It was barely noticeable while he was getting dressed, but the tinnitus became loud and jarring as he thought of having to endure the pointed questions, and being told what to do and how to do it.

By |2017-09-13T19:52:23+00:00September 12th, 2012|stress|Comments Off on Stress, fear of disapproval and rejection brings on Tinnitus

Why Your Ideal Of A Perfect Marriage Causes Your Finance To Break Off The Engagement

No matter how patient he was or how many allowances he made, at the end of the day he felt dumped. Just as he was looking forward to looking for a house and planning the details of the wedding Sheila backed out saying she couldn’t go through with it. She wasn’t ready. She was very sorry, especially as this was a repeat of what had happened before, but it wasn’t going to work out. Neville was in shock. This was the closest he had ever gotten to tying the knot with someone he was nuts about, and it all fell apart. Would he ever get married? Would he ever find that magic that his parents seemed to have and that he desperately wanted to capture?

By |2017-09-13T18:15:58+00:00September 11th, 2012|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|Comments Off on Why Your Ideal Of A Perfect Marriage Causes Your Finance To Break Off The Engagement

Unexpressed anger and stress predispose women to rheumatoid arthritis

Anita’s symptoms ebbed and flowed with each new change in diet and routine. But her general level of fatigue, pain and swelling hampered her work with clients. She became more self-conscious and less social as a result. Anita’s natural awareness and sensitivity to her body heightened to levels that made it difficult to focus and concentrate on anything else. Anita was a intelligent and conscientious person, self-sufficient and dedicated to her craft of body fitness. For Anita, a healthy body was the gateway to a healthy attitude, and balanced life. What Anita didn’t realize is that her emotional life also played a part in creating mind-body harmony.

By |2017-09-13T18:05:13+00:00September 9th, 2012|stress|Comments Off on Unexpressed anger and stress predispose women to rheumatoid arthritis

How To Avoid Feeling Attacked When Your Partner Is Venting!

Do you cringe when your partner starts venting ? Does it feel like your partner is venting at you and that you just have to take it? Are you afraid that if you don't absorb the attack you won't exist for your partner? Then you are caught in a tight spot. It's stressful when power games are at play. Your wish to be something important even if it is a bag for your partner to dump all their anger and frustration, prevents you from showing up as a human being with feelings, on a equal footing with your partner. Watch this video and learn how to allow the venting but not let the attack destroy you for the sake of being connected.

By |2017-09-11T18:48:47+00:00September 7th, 2012|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|Comments Off on How To Avoid Feeling Attacked When Your Partner Is Venting!

How anger can sap your will power to give up smoking

The Resolute Jim Gets Wiped Out The Jim of the last seven months had just been obliterated by the savage betrayal he had just witnessed. He felt as if she had been propelled into another world with no land legs, and no compass to find his way to safety. Some automatic part of him had rushed to the nearest store and bought a pack of cigarettes. Grasping the familiar white tube, lighting it, and inhaling it was like finding his way home. The rush of nicotine mobilized his survival instincts, uncorking his rage to fuel his fighting spirit.

By |2017-09-11T21:15:51+00:00September 6th, 2012|stress|Comments Off on How anger can sap your will power to give up smoking

Is anger stopping you from going with the passion in your life?

The bidding war for Mervin's first musical score was through the roof. It was too good to be true. Hours before the contracts were to be signed the offers were dropped. It felt like an execution. Mervin gave away his guitar and burned all his original compositions. He started a new life in the food industry. He couldn't afford to nurture his talent if it betrayed him with such savage blows of disappointment. Mervin sealed the door to his musical skills, axed the desire to compose, and became a workaholic.

By |2017-09-13T18:30:35+00:00September 5th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|Comments Off on Is anger stopping you from going with the passion in your life?
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