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Self-Compassion Makes You the Partner You Want to be Toward Your Loved One
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Self-Compassion Makes You the Partner You Want to be Toward Your Loved One

Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Self-Compassion Makes You the Partner You Want to be Toward Your Loved One

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00February 13th, 2013|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

After chiding her live- in boyfriend of five years, thirty-three year old boutique owner Nicole was full of self-loathing. She was angry that she had lost her temper with thirty-five year old car service manager Craig who was constantly letting her down. Nicole watched herself berate him for his sloppiness and half-finished chores. She saw Craig cringe and it reminded her of the times when her father laid into her for not doing as he expected. She didn’t want to be anything like her father. She was alarmed and ashamed that she behaved exactly like her dad, and wasn’t able to do anything to stop it.

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Depression burries the anger that prevents you from connecting with loved ones

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:23:46+00:00September 18th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling, Depression Counseling|

The damage to the car was the least of Terry's worries. Shocked, he was unable to take in any words of comfort or reassurance from his wife. He was oblivious to the affectionate nuzzling of his dog, and the adoring smile of his two year old daughter. He replayed the scene in his head a million times. Each time he pressed the rewind button he rehearsed ways in which he could have avoided this disaster. If only the clock could be turned back.! But life wasn't that kind, and neither was Terry. He tortured himself for not paying attention and bringing shame on himself.

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Four ways to manage the excitement and dread of family reunions
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Four ways to manage the excitement and dread of family reunions

Anxiety therapy, Family Counseing, Family of Origin Counseling, relationship issues

Four ways to manage the excitement and dread of family reunions

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:38:03+00:00April 17th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Family Counseing, Family of Origin Counseling, relationship issues|

Dreading meeting up with loved ones while looking forward to it at the same time causes stress and ruins the occasion. The dread comes from the anxiety that you have to come face to face with an old part of you that you walked away from and that now threatens to take over again. You are back in an old war zone getting ready for battle scars instead of being ready to receive welcomes and loving embraces from family members. Learn 4 ways you can reunite with your old self in ways that empower you so that you can enjoy family reunions in peace and with pride.

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How bitterness and self-blame makes you sick and depressed
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How bitterness and self-blame makes you sick and depressed

Anxiety therapy, Depression Counseling, relationship issues

How bitterness and self-blame makes you sick and depressed

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:39:05+00:00August 23rd, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Depression Counseling, relationship issues|

blaming yourself for things going wrong can save your relationship but ultimately make you drown in bitterness. The stress of swallowing it all weakens your immune system and causes depression, gastric problems and eating disorders. Learn how to share experiences with loved ones so that you can participate in a more equitable, secure, stable and safe relationship that turns the bitterness into sweetness.

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Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?- part 2
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Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?- part 2

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues

Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?- part 2

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:30+00:00July 12th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|

Disappointment can rob you of motivation to keep trying without any rewards. Learn how to avoid beating yourself up with self-critical remarks in order to flog yourself back into action.

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Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?
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Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

Are you motivated by the stick or the carrot?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:30+00:00July 5th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Are you driven by shame, fear and punishment? Then you have to go down to rock bottom before you pick yourself up and achieve your goals for good relationships and positive self-esteem. Learn how to bypass the shame and feel worthwhile again.

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How to manage rejection sensitivity and be more open to love!
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How to manage rejection sensitivity and be more open to love!

Anxiety therapy, Anxiety Treatment, Intimacy, relationship issues

How to manage rejection sensitivity and be more open to love!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:30+00:00May 17th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Anxiety Treatment, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Torn between being herself and risking rejection Delia tried to be the perfect hostess but failed. She braced herself by becoming guarded and confused her friends. They reacted with uncertainty which Delia interpreted as rejection. A self-fulfilling prophecy borne of rejection sensitivity. Looking through the lens of others can dramatically change the outlook for Delia and help improve her self-esteem.

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*(How to hang onto good feelings)*
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*(How to hang onto good feelings)*

Anxiety therapy

(How to hang onto good feelings)

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:31+00:00April 29th, 2011|Anxiety therapy|

discover a simple effective way to embed good feelings into your emotional memory so that you can use them when bad times try to wipe them out. Make good feelings a more normal rather than fleeting experience in your daily life.

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How to stop using hoarding as your intimacy substitute!
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How to stop using hoarding as your intimacy substitute!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

How to stop using hoarding as your intimacy substitute!

By dr_j_raymond|2018-09-29T19:08:56+00:00April 12th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you have a mini panic attack every time you try to clear out your clutter? Do you have trouble parting with your possessions because it feels like a part of you, then you may be using your material possessions as a substitute for emotional security. If your relationships make you feel empty and let you down, possessions fill the hole. Follow the 4 steps to gain emotional security and your clutter will disappear all by itself!

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*(How to deal with the regret of the “I wish I had said….” feeling.)*
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*(How to deal with the regret of the “I wish I had said….” feeling.)*

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues

(How to deal with the regret of the “I wish I had said….” feeling.)

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T17:32:46+00:00March 25th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|

Relationship Advice Tips By Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. I can't believe I forgot to make that point! How annoying is it when you leave a conversation and suddenly realize that you forgot to say something important? Do you beat yourself up for not remembering in time? Is self-criticism your default reaction? Are you [...]

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