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How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy
How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00August 18th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Most couples I see in my therapy office say they want to feel like they are 'on the same team' and 'on the same page', but when we explore how they live their lives, there is very little sign of togetherness. Couples usually divide up the jobs that need to get done, and want recognition for it. So they spend their times separate from one and other and only come together for the short moment to get a pat on the back. Couples try to get their ideas and strategies for making life smooth onto the top of the list, without collaborating and making a joint list where they both have a valuable place.

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Four Ways Emotional Intimacy Benefits Your Health
Four Ways Emotional Intimacy Benefits Your Health

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Four Ways Emotional Intimacy Benefits Your Health

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00August 4th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Emotional closeness in a relationship is the key to a stable, secure and satisfying connection that makes a couple more resilient to the stresses and strains of living together. Here are a few benefits that emotional intimacy can provide for couples over the long term: One of the main benefits of intimacy is that it releases the hormone oxytocin which promotes bonding and solidifies the relationship, boosting optimal health.

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Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2
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Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T15:32:05+00:00July 21st, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Which of these options represents your view of commitment? Jail where you give someone someone else the authority in order to make sure you get loved OR Agreement to join forces and walk together along a chosen path, giving and receiving love while maintaining your autonomy. If your heart sank when you chose the first option then you must be fearful of committing and resent having to do it in order to get loved. You don't have to fear that type of commitment any longer. It's all about your perception of commitment - this video shows you how to change it to one where you maintain authority over yourself while allowing yourself to step in and out of another person's life and vice versa.

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Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?
Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00July 7th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Are you locked out of your partner's heart no matter how hard you try to make contact? Do you retaliate by locking them out too? Then you are trapped in a cycle of never connecting and feeling insecure and stressed about the status of your relationship. BUT imagine how different it could be if you discovered the fears that your partner had of letting you in close! WHAT IF you could peek into their inner sanctum and learn how scared they were of you seeing their most private parts? YOU COULD FIND WAYS TO KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND BE WELCOMED IN YOU COULD REDUCE THE FEAR AND GET A FOOTHOLD INTO THEIR SOUL YOU COULD GAIN EMOTIONAL INTIMACY, FEEL WANTED, IMPORTANT, SPECIAL AND TREASURED.

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Why Your Partner Rejects You When You Try to Get Close – part 1

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 24th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Are you ready to give up on your relationship because your partner shuts you out and keeps you out each time you try to connect? Are you fed up with being treated like a monster instead of a lover and a loving partner? Maybe you are wondering what on earth is making your partner push you away and spurn your efforts to get emotionally intimate! This video is the first in a series that takes you behind the curtains and into the soul of your partner - where you can see all the murky fears that make it hard to trust you and let you in.

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How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?
How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00May 30th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Whenever thirty-six-year-old Danny saw his twenty-nine-year-old partner Liz upset and crying about something he didn’t do, or something expectation he hadn’t met, he would start to feel guilty and ashamed and obey her demands for an apology. He wanted her to stop crying and rescue him from the guilt and shame. He wasn’t really interested in her feelings and how she interpreted his behavior. Each time he apologized she got more angry and would either shut down or berate him even more. Danny floundered, not knowing what to do next or how to keep their connection intact. When he felt aggrieved with Liz for not appreciating his thoughtfulness or his help around the house, he wouldn’t tell her about it. He wanted her to feel bad and apologize for snubbing him, but he wasn’t going to ask. He imagined how sweet it would be when she eventually ate humble pie and begged him to take the apology and resume normal relations

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What Frowning Reveals About the Stress Level of Your Marriage
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What Frowning Reveals About the Stress Level of Your Marriage

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, stress

What Frowning Reveals About the Stress Level of Your Marriage

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T20:02:17+00:00May 3rd, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, stress|

After nine years of marriage bringing up three children , thirty-two-year-old Maria faced each day reluctantly. Her body felt heavy and the thought of doing another endless round of chores at home and after school activities with her kids made her head and neck hurt. Her thirty-four-year-old husband Carl’s invitation to take her out to dinner barely blipped on her radar. She registered his intention to be kind and cheer her up but within 10 seconds of acknowledging it, her forehead creased up in a tightly knitted frown, just as it had been before he made the offer.

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What Does Your Sleeping Position Say About Your Marital Satisfaction?
What Does Your Sleeping Position Say About Your Marital Satisfaction?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

What Does Your Sleeping Position Say About Your Marital Satisfaction?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00April 18th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Sleeping in the same bed with her partner Damien at night could be ‘heavenly’ or ‘beastly’ for thirty-seven-year-old florist, Annabel. Sometimes she wanted to mold her body around his, but at other times she felt suffocated by his very presence in the bed. At those times turning her back on him was the only way she could doze off.

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Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?
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Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?

By dr_j_raymond|2018-10-15T23:28:18+00:00March 21st, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Are you frustrated with having good people in your life but no one that sparks that romantic fire? Do you find yourself irresistibly attracted to someone who is hot and steamy, but does nothing for you in the friendship department? Perhaps you wonder whether you will ever find a person whom you could trust and rely on while also having good sex. It's probable that you are keeping these two needs so separate that you have to split yourself in half in order to satisfy both parts. But it doesn't have to be that way - if you figure out what purpose it serves to tear yourself into two pieces.

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Your Rule About What Love is Can Bar You From Receiving it – part 10
Your Rule About What Love is Can Bar You From Receiving it – part 10

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Your Rule About What Love is Can Bar You From Receiving it – part 10

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00January 14th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you have specific criteria for what you accept as a loving act, a loving word or stance? If so you may be excluding a whole host of interactions that are loving but that don't fall within your parameters. You end up feeling left out, empty, not valued and bitter. This video tells the story of just such a man for whom the only genuine love was pity, putting him permanently in the victim role.

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