Do you feel outraged at your loved one for texting others while out with you? Your sense of abandonment and feelings of being ignored can make you feel insecure, pushing you to end the relationship. Learn how to figure out what gets triggered for you in this moment before you destroy what may be a good relationship.
If you are feeling increasingly hopeless about finding that one person who will fit your needs and make you feel special it may be due to clogged up relationship filters that prevent you from recognizing and receiving the very things that you long for. Learn how to unclog the filters and take in the care and commitment that is available to you while saying goodbye to rejection.
when you can't make a decision because you feel torn between several parts of you all wanting different things, your system eases your burden by paralyzing you. You may hate yourself and push yourself with little success because you are not aware of the conflict you are facing about having to give things up if you go one way or the other. Learn how to take yourself off the hook and get your energy levels flowing again by including all parts of yourself in the equation, making the decision a piece of cake!
Mimi was successful with diets when she felt strong and an equal player in the world. As soon as that fragile mood was threatened by words of conditional love, put downs, and a dismissal of her opinions Mimi felt naked and vulnerable. Food was the comforter and the weight she gained became a shield against the abuse. The thicker the armor the less chance there was of being destabilized and out of control. The armor plating was solid enough to deodorize the stench of her own chaotic and stinky feelings. The armor did such a good job that she couldn't distinguish between her own mess and that of others. It also bypassed her emotional thermostat so that she never knew when she couldn't take any more of other people's trash. Food was the best way of resetting the switch and lowering the temperature.
Loyalty and commitment are not enough to make you liked, popular or wanted. There is a much more vital secret ingredient that friends, spouses, and relatives all agree makes a person likeable. This personality trait involves being non-critical and non-judgmental while playful and self-disclosing. Learn what that secret personality ingredient is that makes people seek you out and enjoy your company, and how it can benefit all your important relationships.
Do you live in fear of rejection? Are you waiting for the axe to fall as soon as you have found someone that you like and feel close to? Are the words "here it comes again" ringing in your ears long before your loved one gives you any sign of cooling off? You are not alone in anticipating rejection in order to protect yourself from the reality of it. The only trouble is that you may see rejection when it isn't really there.
Are you a hostage to the highs and lows that the relationship with your significant other gives you? Your energy levels get depleted and leave you unmotivated when you moods are dictated by those of your loved one. Research indicates that a sense of security is the best way to regain your energy and enthusiasm for life. Learn how to regain your sense of security in the relationship and take charge of your moods and energy levesl.
Do conversations with your loved one turn into fights that no one wins? Communication about ordinary life shouldn't have to take you to a battle ground where you end up stressed, exhausted and feeling alone in a conflict. Learn how to stop a regular discussion from turning into an ugly fight, that is divisive. Find out how to connect in a way where you can listen and be heard, creating emotional availability on both sides.
when your hidden relationship rules aren't obeyed by your friends and loved ones it throws you into a state of chaos causing stress and insomnia. Bringing those rules out into the open and updating them allows you to speak up for yourself and enjoy real connections rather than suffer the disturbance of insomnia by expecting others to figure out and play by your invisible rules. Learn how to discover what your rules are and put yourself in the driving seat. Bring peace and healthy connections to your significant relationships when you steer your own wheels.
Is your relationship and sex life just 'okay!' Are you left unsatisfied but can't quite put your finger on what's missing? It may be that you are expecting sex to fulfill too many of your relationship needs and then get understandably disappointed - things like play, comfort, making up after a fight, and so on. Learn how to figure out what duties you are expecting sex to perform in your connection and how to share that burden with other aspects of your relationship.