How to Juggle a Demading Career and Marriage

By |2016-12-29T15:31:13+00:00May 12th, 2015|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you go to work each day feeling a bit guilty that you spent a few extra minutes in bed cuddling with your partner? Perhaps you get anxious on your way home from work, knowing that you stayed late to finish a project or deal with customer service problems. It's hard for you to give equal weight to your job and your marriage when they both mean a great deal to you. You don't like the feeling of having to take time from one part of your life to give to another, and it's a conflict that you can't seem to resolve. You know in your gut that your marriage is the key foundation that sustains you and makes you feel secure. So how can you make the time you spend with your partner special and free of work and other intrusions?

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The Real Fear Behind Fear of Committment

By |2017-09-11T19:42:21+00:00June 11th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Are you longing to feel like you have a partner that is a good fit and that you are finally settling down, but wonder why you can't commit? Do you find that the person you are attracted to seems inviting and loving, but that you have doubts about whether there is someone out there even more suitable? Then you are caught in a conflict about what attachment and commitment means to you. One part of you is in touch with the comfort, the love and attention, the togetherness and the bliss of feeling close. But another part of you is scared you will have to give up your right to think for yourself and be your own person. So you end up regretting decisions you make to commit because as soon as you do, it's as if you have just given yourself a term of life in jail.

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Rules About What Makes Relationships Last Stop Them From Ever Starting -part 8

By |2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00December 20th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

If you are struggling with finding a lasting relationship that you can enjoy no matter how stressful the ups and downs, it's likely that you have some deep and powerful unconscious rules about what makes people stick together. You may think that love and attraction are enough to maintain commitment and loyalty but underneath you probably believe that you have to be a certain way, act and think in a specific fashion AND MOST OF ALL that your partner has to do the same. These rules prevent you from giving the relationship a chance to find it's feet. You can't even get to first base because your unconscious relationship rules make you heightened to WHAT IS ABSENT rather than build and shape healthy intimacy, trust and security.

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Stop The Cycle of Attraction To The Wrong Person And Learn To Like The Right One!

By |2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00September 9th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Now that you are aware of the three most powerful forces that attract you towards a person who ultimately disappoints you and makes you miserable, the next step is to learn how to avoid those unconscious pitfalls that trap you unwittingly into the same old game plan. This video gives you the information you need to pause and reflect before you jump headlong into the excitement of uncertainty and the elation of having the power to change the person to your liking. Learn about the old relationship rules and expectations that unconsciously guide you into doing the same old thing over and over again and ending up just as burned and spent.

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Are your personal goals likely to save your marriage or break it up?

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00July 5th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|

Do you feel that your partner is always putting you down and being superior? Do you want to outdo them at their game? Are you always in competition with one another about who is the more moral, the greater lover, the better at remembering the important things in life? Then your goals may be misaligned, causing stress and risk to your marriage. This video shows you how to detect the motivation behind your goals so that you can evaluate whether your marriage is at risk.

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Managing co-dependency in a marriage – the second five steps in learning to support rather than rescue

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00March 26th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Despite the relief that Craig felt when his wife Sophie did his bookkeeping for his landscape business he was frequently choked with shame. The conflict made him snappy and uninterested in spending leisure time with her. He dreaded going to bed at night because he didn’t want to face his impotence when he forced himself to try and make love to her. He was trapped in a cycle of neediness, shame and anger at the very person whom he relied upon to keep his business afloat. The more ashamed he got the less he wanted to be with Sophie. She got angry at him and accused him of being ungrateful and irresponsible. Of course the criticisms added more shame onto Craig’s pile. He hated his wife for making him so dependent on her. The lethal combination of shame and hate made him aggressive towards her. He wanted his power back, but being in a co-dependent relationship made it impossible. He just melted with fear when he tried to stand up for himself

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How Do You Build Trust in a Relationship When You are Repeatedly Let Down?

By |2016-12-13T05:19:18+00:00March 5th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

A month into a pact that 37 year old cosmetologist Katrina made with 39 year old Roger to quit drinking and attend AA meetings, she found an empty liquor bottle in the outside trash can while she was clearing stuff out. Breathless with fury about his lies and his lack of trustworthiness she waited for him to come home from his job at the property management company. She was ready to confront him with the bottle and make him admit and atone for his transgression towards her and their relationship. “You’ve been drinking again, haven’t you?” Katrina scolded. “No, I haven’t!” “Don’t lie. I found this bottle in the trash. It’s the brand you drink, so don’t lie.” Katrina challenged him with a voice oozing with disgust and contempt. “Stop accusing me of stuff. You’ve got no proof. You jump to conclusions without even asking me.” Roger yelled back in an affronted tone. “We’ve been here before. You’re always promising to stop drinking and go to AA but you never do. You’re just a junkie. If it’s not booze then it’s pot or something else. I’m sick of your lies and empty promises.”

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Where to Find a Boyfriend When the Current One is No Good?

By |2017-09-13T17:41:18+00:00February 6th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Dating, Intimacy, relationship issues|

As the six week new beauty product launch project wound down thirty-six year old Gina felt sad that the closeness and unity of the team was about to shatter as they all went their separate ways. She would miss the happy family they had created in order to get the job done, but understood that good things came to an end. What she couldn’t let go of was the fluttering of excitement and hope she felt when she thought about getting to know Brett on a more personal level.

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How To Trust In Relationships

By |2016-12-13T05:19:19+00:00December 8th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you have trouble trusting your partner even though they are committed and loyal? Are you always on the look out for signs of deception and betrayal? Is it hard for you to trust in your relationship because you can't believe that anyone could really want you for yourself? Perhaps you have had bad experiences where you felt like someones toy while they were waiting for the real thing to come along. Maybe you have been rejected and lost hope that you get a good looking, smart person to be attracted to you and choose to stay in the relationship. All these hurtful experiences stopped you from learning how to trust in relationships.

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Conflict Recovery Style Determines Whether Couples Stay Together

By |2016-12-13T05:19:20+00:00November 14th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues, separation counseling|

Late on Saturday night thirty year old beautician Elaine sat alone in her apartment after a terrible fight with her thirty-two year boyfriend Dave. She was horrified when Dave lost his cool and accused her of disrespecting him by keeping her whereabouts a secret. Trying to defend herself led to a big fight which ended when she told him to leave. Two hours later Dave was frantic with worry.

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