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How to rescue your marriage from roommate status!
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How to rescue your marriage from roommate status!

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

How to rescue your marriage from roommate status!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:29+00:00November 2nd, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

The more secrets you keep because you want to avoid conflict the more your marriage becomes a roommate situation. Your background will determine whether you work things out or you hope problems disappear. When two partners have these two opposite styles of dealing issues, marriages turn into convenient ways to manage finances. Learn how to find incentives where both styles can come together and create a dialogue where issues get dealt with before the marriage is one in name only.

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Why you don’t feel understood when people say they understand- part 2
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Why you don’t feel understood when people say they understand- part 2

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Why you don’t feel understood when people say they understand- part 2

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:29+00:00October 26th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

If someone says they 'understand' and then sets out to change your feelings you are unlikely to feel truly understood. For you to feel like you are fully tuned into, takes acceptance and tolerance. When you are being pushed to change there is no tolerance for your feelings and that is what makes you feel unheard and misunderstood.

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How to ensure no one bursts your bubble!
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How to ensure no one bursts your bubble!

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How to ensure no one bursts your bubble!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:29+00:00October 22nd, 2011|Anxiety therapy|

If you are too scared to show your happiness to anyone else, chances are you are keeping them low key even from yourself. Perhaps you are scared someone will dismiss the feelings, envy you, make fun of you or just rob you and use your stuff to blow their own trumpet. Learn how to anchor your good feelings so that you retain ownership and enjoy them no matter what other agenda any one else has for you.

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Why you don’t feel understood when your loved ones say “I understand.”
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Why you don’t feel understood when your loved ones say “I understand.”

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues

Why you don’t feel understood when your loved ones say “I understand.”

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:29+00:00October 16th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|

It's a great feeling to feel truly understood. It's very disappointing and frustrating when friends and loved ones say they understand you but show impatience, want you to change or shift your mood. There are two key elements in feeling understood. The first is acceptance but in very specific way. Learn about the many ways you can show and feel accepted in order to experience the sense of being understood and doing the same for your loved ones.

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Three Ways To Stop Being Invisible To Your Partner
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Three Ways To Stop Being Invisible To Your Partner

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

Three Ways To Stop Being Invisible To Your Partner

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:53:22+00:00October 5th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

If you are waiting for your partner to give you permission to be an equal in the relationship then you probably feel invisible and judged unfairly. Learn three ways in which you can retrain your brain circuits so that you let love and comfort in, become visible and feel valued.

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Why protecting your partner may be the worst move you ever make!
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Why protecting your partner may be the worst move you ever make!

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Why protecting your partner may be the worst move you ever make!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:40:29+00:00September 21st, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Keeping silent to protect your partner from feeling bad actually makes them feel worse. They get stressed, suspicious and feel estranged from you. Research indicates that avoiding one another works against successful relationships, and constant worry about the feelings of your partner makes you dissatisfied and want to opt out. Learn 3 ways to communicate honestly and build healthy connections.

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How to stop others from making your stuff all about them!
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How to stop others from making your stuff all about them!

Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues

How to stop others from making your stuff all about them!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:23:38+00:00September 17th, 2011|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|

How do you handle other people when they take what you say and make it all about them? Do you hold a grudge and let it out slowly punishing them over a long period of time, or do you attack them and fight for your spot in the conversation? Either way it's not comfortable or respectful. No one gets heard. This video clip teaches you how to set out the parameters so that you have your turn, get heard and in turn feel ready to hear the other person's experience, comparing notes rather than competing.

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How to turn a volatile conflictual marriage into a happy validating union.
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How to turn a volatile conflictual marriage into a happy validating union.

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

How to turn a volatile conflictual marriage into a happy validating union.

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:11:09+00:00September 13th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Is yours a volatile marriage prone to conflict and likely to break up, or a validating marriage that is happy and supportive? Find out by reading this article and get 8 tips on changing your marriage from a volatile to a validating successful marriage.

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Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!
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Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T18:03:27+00:00September 7th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

When you are upset that you aren't as perfect as you aimed for, you may criticize yourself, feel bad about yourself and then withdraw from the people you love. Your sense of being imperfect makes you fearful of getting close. You turn inward and shut loved ones out, making your intimate connections dissolve. Research indicates that the self-critical part of perfectionism is the most destructive force to intimacy.

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How to get over that “there’s no point” feeling!
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How to get over that “there’s no point” feeling!

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, Uncategorized

How to get over that “there’s no point” feeling!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:29+00:00September 3rd, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, Uncategorized|

When you get that feeling that there's no point saying anything because you "know" how your loved one will react, you relive a frozen image of the past and kill any chances of connection. Get this tip on beginning a conversation to share your ideas, experience and feelings by asking questions that keep you both firmly grounded and fresh in your ever changing relationship and enjoy the contact!

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