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Couples Communication Issues – 7, Suspicion
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Couples Communication Issues – 7, Suspicion

Communication Issues, Communication Problems, couples therapy

Couples Communication Issues – 7, Suspicion

By dr_j_raymond|2018-10-15T20:29:10+00:00March 29th, 2016|Communication Issues, Communication Problems, couples therapy|

Do you automatically brush away your partner’s promises to do chores or specific tasks with suspicion, thinking that it will never happen? Do you doubt your partner’s sincerity when they apologize, suspecting that they are just saying the right words, but don’t really mean it? Maybe you anticipate that you will have to do all the jobs your partner does over again because they won’t do it right or in a timely fashion. You are suspicious of their intentions and capabilities and that makes it hard for you to trust. It puts you on guard, watching for the next mistake or broken promise that will become your problem to handle. It’s not easy to have a loving and open connection when you are in this state, is it?

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Couples Communication Issues – Part 3- Interaction Styles
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Couples Communication Issues – Part 3- Interaction Styles

Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy

Couples Communication Issues – Part 3- Interaction Styles

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:32:30+00:00January 4th, 2016|Anxiety therapy, Communication Issues, Communication Problems, couples therapy, Intimacy|

west los angeles couples counseling Do you walk away from your partner when they start talking to you in ways that seem critical and condemnatory? Maybe your partner does little things to deliberately annoy you while pretending to be angelic on the surface? This style of communicating has a huge impact and cause big feelings, often leading to erruptions. Actions set out to send a big message of protest or of having power and control over your partner can be very useful when you don't want to argue, or when it isn't comfortable to let two different points of view coexist in the same space. But there are some drawbacks - it avoids talking, discussing, exploring and understanding. Without words, there is no appreciation of each others intent, motive, hurt, anxiety, fear, expectation or desire. There is only protest, punishment, revenge, an attempt to be control, and one up-manship.

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Couples Communication Issues – Part 2 – The Approach
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Couples Communication Issues – Part 2 – The Approach

Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy

Couples Communication Issues – Part 2 – The Approach

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:23:03+00:00December 29th, 2015|Communication Issues, Communication Problems, Intimacy|

communication issues in couples therapy The approach you take when you initiate a conversation with your spouse determines whether or not you get through, or stay outside feeling unseen and unheard. In this second of the series on couples communication issues, you will learn why your partner shuts down, shuts you out and shuts down the relationship. You will also discover how your expectations of your partner's words and intentions can effect receptivity, making the difference between being invited in, or being shut out.

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How to Repair Family Relationships That Get Broken With Repeated Hurts

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:39:32+00:00February 23rd, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|

Do you feel that you can't speak your mind because it will end in a misunderstanding, fight and hurt feelings? Are you regretful after you speak your truth because a loved one got upset and froze you out? Family relationship problems usually revolve around the way you make up after a relationship issue has caused tension, hurt, pain and anger. Maybe you feel guilty when you do speak your mind and then rush to compensate by being extra attentive to the family member who felt hurt by your remarks. You give your power to the one who feels wronged and then resent it later when you feel diminished by your enslavement towards atoning for your daring move to speak out. The relationship feels burdensome and heavy making you want to exit. You may cut it off so give yourself some relief. But it's harder to make up later. The effort and work that is needed to bring the relationship back to life is enormous. So why not learn how to repair family problems by taking care of the hurt before it turns into a gaping and lethal wound.

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How To Prove That You Are Not The Same As Your Partner’s Exes!
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How To Prove That You Are Not The Same As Your Partner’s Exes!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

How To Prove That You Are Not The Same As Your Partner’s Exes!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:23+00:00August 24th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

It's frustrating when your partner keeps expecting you to be the same loser as their ex partner or date. No matter how many times you remind your partner that you are different it doesn't seem to sink in. You feel weighted down by having to prove that you are better, more loving, more considerate and more honest. You are in a fight to show your good self but the burden of your partner's expectations is overwhelming. Before you erupt in a fit of pique at the blatant injustice of being tarred with the same bad brush learn how you can stop the unfair expectation in its tracks.

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