A combination of two important factors can influence you when you decide whether you can forgive a loved one or not. Learn which two factors you use in your relationships so that you can keep strong bonds going as you deal better with the pain and hurt of betrayal. Get 3 tips on how you can improve connections between you and those loved ones who hurt you so that you don't need to hold grudges.
Betrayal by a loved one can fill you with rage and helplessness. Learn how to drill down under the anger of betrayal and discover what is eating away at your sense of security. Find your sense of control and power so that you can enjoy intimate relationships without fear of betrayal.
Wanting to feel valued and helpful to your partner is very normal and natural. It's frustrating when your efforts are rejected and problems just get worse. There is a secret to getting your help accepted and valued. It's about timing and setting the stage so that your partner will be receptive and hungry for your help. The right order of business is crucial. Learn the four step process to making sure your partner values your help.
An inability to trust people who said they would do their job and care for her made Sharon exhausted with having to do everything herself. She was always let down if she asked for help and sharing of responsibility. Sharon was caught between wanting to believe and trust but couldn't put herself at risk of having to take over and be the adult all the time. It made her furious and exhausted. Learn about the three steps Sharon needs to take to build up enough trust to let people help her rather than stand in for her irresponsible promise breaking parents who take the tongue lashing on their behalf.
When you can't seem to get through to your loved ones or they don't believe what you say it may be because you are giving mixed messages even though you feel clear and direct in your messages. Learn how to get all parts of your message in synch by orchestrating your emotions in an open and transparent way so that you come across as credible. Then you can have a dialogue based on what's really going on inside you rather than what others misinterpret or distort.
Keeping silent to protect your partner from feeling bad actually makes them feel worse. They get stressed, suspicious and feel estranged from you. Research indicates that avoiding one another works against successful relationships, and constant worry about the feelings of your partner makes you dissatisfied and want to opt out. Learn 3 ways to communicate honestly and build healthy connections.
When you get that feeling that there's no point saying anything because you "know" how your loved one will react, you relive a frozen image of the past and kill any chances of connection. Get this tip on beginning a conversation to share your ideas, experience and feelings by asking questions that keep you both firmly grounded and fresh in your ever changing relationship and enjoy the contact!
What are your partner's motives for making you promises they can't keep and don't really intend to keep? Learn what research on couples making promises tells you about the reason why you keep your promises but your partner fails in that department.
Walking on egg shells to avoid hurting others or having what you said come back to bite you saps your motivation to be in a relationship. It becomes work rather than a natural flow of communication that allows for each person to share what's on their mind. Discover the two benefits of being open and frank that will enhance and improve the relationship, while giving you the right to say what you want without censoring every word.
Fear of giving up your past and who you are in order to be loved messes up your chances of having a successful and stable relationship. Discover how to know, feel and believe that you are loveable while still retaining your troubled history and what it means for you.
