Torn between being herself and risking rejection Delia tried to be the perfect hostess but failed. She braced herself by becoming guarded and confused her friends. They reacted with uncertainty which Delia interpreted as rejection. A self-fulfilling prophecy borne of rejection sensitivity. Looking through the lens of others can dramatically change the outlook for Delia and help improve her self-esteem.
Does your mood and self-esteem change according to how well you think you did in a job or project? Then you may be attributing your feelings to the activity you perform and that is a mistake. The truth is more to do with the nature of the relationship you have with the people you work with. Distinguishing between the activity and the person you do it with makes all the difference to finding consistent satisfaction.
Learn how to listen for the hidden wish for connection disguised as nagging orders from your loved ones. Get past the smoke screen and hear the real need for closeness and intimacy with you that comes across as ordering you around.
Guilt that goes with impacting others negatively keeps you locked in a fortress without intimacy. Fear of others impacting you with love in case you become needy makes you turn loved ones into fortresses. Either way intimacy is lost and loneliness takes over. Learn why impacting each other is a good sign of love, caring and necessary for strong healthy relationships.
Relationship Advice Tips by Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. Do what I say or else I will punish you for not proving your love! Obedience versus freedom of choice - what's the criteria for proof of love? If Tim did what Koren asked of him it meant that he really loved her. Obedience to the wishes [...]
Three stage strategy to communicate how you want to be loved and cared for that will make your partner understand what is most important to you and why, so that you get the proof you need of your value.
Declan thought that giving up his passionate hobby was the way to avoid his partner's mocking words, but his self-sacrifice backfired. Relationship quality decreased because he was motivated to take away bad stuff rather than reach for the good stuff. Learn what research tells us about what type of self-sacrifice improves the quality and satisfaction ratings of intimate relationships.
There are tell tale signs of sincerity you can use to tell if your loved ones mean the sweet words they say! Focus on the "how" and not on the "what" of the words to get a good read.
you can keep your convictions and get your way without trampling over friends and loved ones, OR giving in and feeling controlled in defeat. There is a magic word that does the trick of making you both feel like winners on the same team.
Relationship Advice Tips By Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. Jumping over aspects of your past destroys your chances of relationship satisfaction Are you convinced that if your date or partner knew about your past history they would dump you? Do you make every effort to cover up your past because it embarrasses you? Have you [...]
