Keeping silent to protect your partner from feeling bad actually makes them feel worse. They get stressed, suspicious and feel estranged from you. Research indicates that avoiding one another works against successful relationships, and constant worry about the feelings of your partner makes you dissatisfied and want to opt out. Learn 3 ways to communicate honestly and build healthy connections.
How do you handle other people when they take what you say and make it all about them? Do you hold a grudge and let it out slowly punishing them over a long period of time, or do you attack them and fight for your spot in the conversation? Either way it's not comfortable or respectful. No one gets heard. This video clip teaches you how to set out the parameters so that you have your turn, get heard and in turn feel ready to hear the other person's experience, comparing notes rather than competing.
When you get that feeling that there's no point saying anything because you "know" how your loved one will react, you relive a frozen image of the past and kill any chances of connection. Get this tip on beginning a conversation to share your ideas, experience and feelings by asking questions that keep you both firmly grounded and fresh in your ever changing relationship and enjoy the contact!
Bargaining with your loved ones either because you are afraid of being rejected or because you are riddled in guilt can bring short term relief. In the long run the relationships are torn into shreds because your true motives for the bargain are not on the table. Learn how to take care of your relationship with healthy compromise instead of stressful bargaining.
Don't suffer the hurt and anger of being rebuffed by " I'm not in the mood!" or " not now, it's not a good time!" from your partner when you are ready to talk and share. Learn how to approach your partner to get them in synch with you so that you are both ready to talk at the same time.
Disappointment can rob you of motivation to keep trying without any rewards. Learn how to avoid beating yourself up with self-critical remarks in order to flog yourself back into action.
Video tip on overcoming loneliness by reaching out for loved ones and feeling supported rather than retreating based on fear of rejection.
Two practical video tips from relationship expert and psychologist Dr. Jeanette Raymond on finding the right balance between asserting your independence in your relationship while still feeling connected.
Walking on egg shells to avoid hurting others or having what you said come back to bite you saps your motivation to be in a relationship. It becomes work rather than a natural flow of communication that allows for each person to share what's on their mind. Discover the two benefits of being open and frank that will enhance and improve the relationship, while giving you the right to say what you want without censoring every word.
Breath life into your imagined vision of a warm connection with this tip and avoid constant disappointments that make you cynical about investing in relationship. Use this expert relationship tip to help your vision take root and fulfill your joyful visions in the real world.
