Are you scared that if you have time with friends, family, colleagues or just alone that you are deserting your loved one? Is the fear of being seen as disloyal stopping you from living a full and satisfying life? The real fear you have is that if you step out of the arena even for a short while to take care of your needs outside the relationship that your loved one will forget you, find someone else or just not want you back.
Faye often fantasized about leaving and finding a more responsive partner. She imagined a more loving and thankful man who valued her empathy, her consideration and her willingness to give him space to fulfill his ambition. That’s what she had hoped to get from Kyle, but that was now a lost cause. Faye found herself getting irritable with Kyle, finding fault with him just for breathing and avoiding any physical contact. Their relationship had become a tension filled balloon about to burst as it ran out of air!
Do you dread those tense moments when you can feel a fight starting up between you and your loved on? Are you tired and needing a breather but can't find a way out? Have you tried not reacting, compromising, pleasing and shutting down, but yet the sparks fly and the fights erupt? Then you and your loved ones may have problems with boundaries in your relationships. You see, it's not that you are arguing points or opinions but that you are trying desperately to carve out comfortable space for yourself without harming the couple part of the relationship. That's when the tension gets high and some fighting needs to take place to get you the space!
If you connect with your partner through guilt then you probably find yourself wanting to escape. The relationship isn't comfortable because you need to set some personal boundaries that make appropriate times and situations for enjoyable connection instead of a pull-push cycle of anger and guilt. Learn how to do that so that you actually want to be with your partner rather than feel you have to!
Relationship Advice Tips from Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. Are you always worrying about what other people will think of you if you don't conform to expectations? Do you have a nagging voice in your head that pushes you do dress, act, talk and carry yourself in a certain way so that you can avoid the [...]
If you want to know the secret to keeping the romance alive in your relationship after the initial highs, you have to make sure that the levels of the hormone Oxytocin stay pumped up. Research has found that couples who engage in specific reciprocal interactions encourage the production of Oxytocin which in turn glues and cements the attachment bonds so that the couple stays together and enjoys their connection. Learn what those special interactions are and make your relationship separation proof.
Verbal attacks from your loved one can make you shrink into a helpless scared person. Learn how to boost your self-worth by flexing your emotional muscles. Put yourself on an equal footing so that you are not used to make your loved one feel good by putting you down.
Do you feel outraged at your loved one for texting others while out with you? Your sense of abandonment and feelings of being ignored can make you feel insecure, pushing you to end the relationship. Learn how to figure out what gets triggered for you in this moment before you destroy what may be a good relationship.
If you are feeling increasingly hopeless about finding that one person who will fit your needs and make you feel special it may be due to clogged up relationship filters that prevent you from recognizing and receiving the very things that you long for. Learn how to unclog the filters and take in the care and commitment that is available to you while saying goodbye to rejection.
when you can't make a decision because you feel torn between several parts of you all wanting different things, your system eases your burden by paralyzing you. You may hate yourself and push yourself with little success because you are not aware of the conflict you are facing about having to give things up if you go one way or the other. Learn how to take yourself off the hook and get your energy levels flowing again by including all parts of yourself in the equation, making the decision a piece of cake!
