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Why Anger is necessary – it’s how you use it that counts!

For Carrie the choice felt as stark as this ‘do as she says and keep your daughter close, or be selfish and lonely, guilty and regretful for the rest of your life.’ Faced with that conflict, Carrie always chose the former. Until now. As she was being ground into the dust with no sign of reprieve, her survival instinct kicked in. Her fury at not being able to withdraw the interest on her relationship bank accounts eventually allowed her to put her needs first. Resentment topped guilt and released her anger.

By adminla|2017-09-13T19:23:24+00:00July 19th, 2012|Blog|Comments Off

How to Manage The Guilt Of Saying ‘No’ To Your Partner!
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How to Manage The Guilt Of Saying ‘No’ To Your Partner!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

How to Manage The Guilt Of Saying ‘No’ To Your Partner!

If you connect with your partner through guilt then you probably find yourself wanting to escape. The relationship isn't comfortable because you need to set some personal boundaries that make appropriate times and situations for enjoyable connection instead of a pull-push cycle of anger and guilt. Learn how to do that so that you actually want to be with your partner rather than feel you have to!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:24+00:00July 16th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|Comments Off

Are you addicted to fighting with your partner?

Both Keith and Kim get a buzz from engaging with each other through conflict. No matter how uncomfortable they may feel during their fights, their cravings for the pay offs call the tune. Like any other addiction, it has to be fed and topped up with more conflict for the highs to be maintained.

By adminla|2017-09-13T19:44:55+00:00July 15th, 2012|Blog|Comments Off

How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think!
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How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think!

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How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think!

Relationship Advice Tips from Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. Are you always worrying about what other people will think of you if you don't conform to expectations? Do you have a nagging voice in your head that pushes you do dress, act, talk and carry yourself in a certain way so that you can avoid the [...]

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:24+00:00July 13th, 2012|Anxiety therapy|Comments Off

How To Make Sure Your Relationship Makes It Past The Initial Romance
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How To Make Sure Your Relationship Makes It Past The Initial Romance

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How To Make Sure Your Relationship Makes It Past The Initial Romance

If you want to know the secret to keeping the romance alive in your relationship after the initial highs, you have to make sure that the levels of the hormone Oxytocin stay pumped up. Research has found that couples who engage in specific reciprocal interactions encourage the production of Oxytocin which in turn glues and cements the attachment bonds so that the couple stays together and enjoys their connection. Learn what those special interactions are and make your relationship separation proof.

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T19:36:14+00:00July 10th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|Comments Off

How To Deal With Verbal Attacks From Your Loved Ones.
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How To Deal With Verbal Attacks From Your Loved Ones.

Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues

How To Deal With Verbal Attacks From Your Loved Ones.

Verbal attacks from your loved one can make you shrink into a helpless scared person. Learn how to boost your self-worth by flexing your emotional muscles. Put yourself on an equal footing so that you are not used to make your loved one feel good by putting you down.

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T18:38:33+00:00July 3rd, 2012|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, relationship issues|Comments Off

How To Deal With a Loved One Who Texts Others While In Your Company!
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How To Deal With a Loved One Who Texts Others While In Your Company!

Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

How To Deal With a Loved One Who Texts Others While In Your Company!

Do you feel outraged at your loved one for texting others while out with you? Your sense of abandonment and feelings of being ignored can make you feel insecure, pushing you to end the relationship. Learn how to figure out what gets triggered for you in this moment before you destroy what may be a good relationship.

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T17:16:13+00:00June 29th, 2012|Anger Issues, Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|Comments Off

How To Recognize The 3 Prerequisites Of Love And Feel Wanted!
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How To Recognize The 3 Prerequisites Of Love And Feel Wanted!

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How To Recognize The 3 Prerequisites Of Love And Feel Wanted!

If you are feeling increasingly hopeless about finding that one person who will fit your needs and make you feel special it may be due to clogged up relationship filters that prevent you from recognizing and receiving the very things that you long for. Learn how to unclog the filters and take in the care and commitment that is available to you while saying goodbye to rejection.

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:24+00:00June 26th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|Comments Off

How To Make That Decision You Have Been Putting Off!
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How To Make That Decision You Have Been Putting Off!

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

How To Make That Decision You Have Been Putting Off!

when you can't make a decision because you feel torn between several parts of you all wanting different things, your system eases your burden by paralyzing you. You may hate yourself and push yourself with little success because you are not aware of the conflict you are facing about having to give things up if you go one way or the other. Learn how to take yourself off the hook and get your energy levels flowing again by including all parts of yourself in the equation, making the decision a piece of cake!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:24+00:00June 22nd, 2012|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|Comments Off

Anger makes you fat and keeps you fat!

Mimi was successful with diets when she felt strong and an equal player in the world. As soon as that fragile mood was threatened by words of conditional love, put downs, and a dismissal of her opinions Mimi felt naked and vulnerable. Food was the comforter and the weight she gained became a shield against the abuse. The thicker the armor the less chance there was of being destabilized and out of control. The armor plating was solid enough to deodorize the stench of her own chaotic and stinky feelings. The armor did such a good job that she couldn't distinguish between her own mess and that of others. It also bypassed her emotional thermostat so that she never knew when she couldn't take any more of other people's trash. Food was the best way of resetting the switch and lowering the temperature.

By adminla|2017-09-11T17:54:53+00:00June 20th, 2012|stress|Comments Off