If you feel snubbed by your date who doesn't appear to want to sleep with you after doing it once during dates, there may be a very good reason. It's likely that you have something good going between you that sex would spoil. Learn how sex can drive you apart instead of making you an item if you make it the main criteria of your dating success.
If you are fed up with bad feelings and bad situations robbing you of your good moments, you are giving into the bad stuff by getting upset and disappointed. There are good reasons for you to have good and bad feelings both at the same time. Find out how to enjoy the good times no matter what bad feelings seem to get in the way, and value both so that the good ones feel great!
If you hate your procrastination brought on by fear of commitment then you may be either ignoring it to get things done or living in limbo. Learn how your body can prompt you to face up to your fears by giving you a sudden attack of flu that disappears as soon as you understand and take care of the fear by sharing responsibility with your loved ones rather than bearing the unbearable load all alone.
Is your relationship really breaking up or just shifting to accommodate changing needs in order to survive? Discover the three myths about breaking up and learn about the three truths about relationship breakups that allow you to maintain and improve the connections after the initial shock.
If you are angry and tired of waiting for your partner to make good on a promise to commit to marriage and family then you are probably stressed and torn between staying in the hope of some movement and wanting to cut your losses. Learn 3 ways to help you decide what the costs and consequences are for you if you take the plunge and choose one side of your need. Take the pressure off yourself and your partner by looking at what is getting in the way and how to help your partner come out of the indecisive bubble.
Are you afraid that your partner's bad mood will bring you down and rob you of your good mood? If you try unsuccessfully to cheer your partner up so you can both connect from a good place then learn how to understand the tension and gap between you so that you don't feel like a failure. Discover how to come to terms with your varying emotional metabolic rates so that you will both be ready and available to one another when the tense moments have passed.
If you find that you can't get enough of good sex with your partner at some times but hate the thought of it later, you may be at the mercy of a set of mental factors that turn on the green light for short intervals, while staying on red for long spells. In the green light time zones you see each other as desirable and comforting, but during the red light time periods you perceive each other as robots who need to do their duty and kill off intimacy by making demands and comparisons that are impossible to overcome. Learn two ways you can keep the green light on for longer and on a lasting basis for your constant enjoyment of physical intimacy.
Want your relationships to be new and better in 2012? If you try and fail to keep New Years resolutions about being a better person, and having better relationships, then just stop. It's not that you don't have the will power or motivation. It's not that you have no endurance. You just need to tune into your natural built in renewal and rejuvenation mechanisms and use them to refocus your lens on your relationships so that they become more secure and satisfying. Learn three ways you can do that without even trying and literally become 'new' by rewiring your brain and creating constant newness from the inside out.
Saying good things about yourself to yourself each day can make you feel better and more confident in the short term. But soon you need to up the ante and make the statements even more elaborate, comparing yourself to others in a superior way. If that comes across to friends and loved ones, and it does whether you say it openly or not, you are destroying your relationships. Learn how to work with your poor self-esteem in ways that bring you closer to people so that they provide the foundation on which you can feel good for ever, naturally, never needing these artificial self-affirmations again.
Your sex life may be non-existent because of the roles you and your partner have assumed that makes sex impossible and bad! If you relate to each other as unequal master and slave, boss and worker, parent and child or enemies wanting the lions share of what is available, then sex as a loving act is out of the question. Learn how to avoid getting stuck in those destructive roles and enjoy your sex life again.
