Were you brought up to believe that if you suffering is the road to earning love? Do you expect the same from your loved ones? If so your life may be all suffering and no love! Learn how to recognize, accept and receive love in ways that don't force others to be sacrifical nor turn you into a dried up lonely and angry family member.
Hating your emotions and mistakes deprives you of the lesson they have to teach you. Benefit from tuning into their message to get the motivation you need to aim for the positive growth and relationship success that you richly deserve.
Panic attacks can make you feel like you are going crazy but they have a purpose. Understanding the struggles and traps you feel caught up in take away the shame and helplessness you feel when you are hostage to the panic attacks. Read John's story about the conflict he had making choices about his life and taking care of family- his panic attacks came to force him to face his dilemma and be truly in charge of his life.
blaming yourself for things going wrong can save your relationship but ultimately make you drown in bitterness. The stress of swallowing it all weakens your immune system and causes depression, gastric problems and eating disorders. Learn how to share experiences with loved ones so that you can participate in a more equitable, secure, stable and safe relationship that turns the bitterness into sweetness.
Doing things you know you should do just to avoid guilt means you are reacting to bad feelings.It is a harsh stick that never stops beating you. Guilt is a negative motivator stopping you from ever doing things out of joy, happiness, excitement or for self-improvement. Learn how to throw the guilt out of the window and get back in touch with your true motivation to have warm relationships just because you are you and not because you have to earn it or get punished when you don't do as you should. Make space for your authentic motivation and see how easy it is to get things done!
Are you conflicted between the vision of improvement and the comfort of having no change? Then you leave yourself open to fear being your only motivator. Why wait to be stressed out by overwhelming fear as your engine. Learn to use your own power and desire to get you behind the wheel of your own life.
Are you driven by shame, fear and punishment? Then you have to go down to rock bottom before you pick yourself up and achieve your goals for good relationships and positive self-esteem. Learn how to bypass the shame and feel worthwhile again.
Walking on egg shells to avoid hurting others or having what you said come back to bite you saps your motivation to be in a relationship. It becomes work rather than a natural flow of communication that allows for each person to share what's on their mind. Discover the two benefits of being open and frank that will enhance and improve the relationship, while giving you the right to say what you want without censoring every word.
Fear of giving up your past and who you are in order to be loved messes up your chances of having a successful and stable relationship. Discover how to know, feel and believe that you are loveable while still retaining your troubled history and what it means for you.
Unreliable connections cause stress and lead to back ache. Learn three ways to trust good people and remove the trust rather than living with dread and vigilance that all relationships are like the ones you had before- unreliable. Discover how Donovan found healthy stress free relationships and got rid of persistent back pain.
