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Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?
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Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00July 7th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Are you locked out of your partner's heart no matter how hard you try to make contact? Do you retaliate by locking them out too? Then you are trapped in a cycle of never connecting and feeling insecure and stressed about the status of your relationship. BUT imagine how different it could be if you discovered the fears that your partner had of letting you in close! WHAT IF you could peek into their inner sanctum and learn how scared they were of you seeing their most private parts? YOU COULD FIND WAYS TO KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND BE WELCOMED IN YOU COULD REDUCE THE FEAR AND GET A FOOTHOLD INTO THEIR SOUL YOU COULD GAIN EMOTIONAL INTIMACY, FEEL WANTED, IMPORTANT, SPECIAL AND TREASURED.

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Why Your Partner Rejects You When You Try to Get Close – part 1

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 24th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Are you ready to give up on your relationship because your partner shuts you out and keeps you out each time you try to connect? Are you fed up with being treated like a monster instead of a lover and a loving partner? Maybe you are wondering what on earth is making your partner push you away and spurn your efforts to get emotionally intimate! This video is the first in a series that takes you behind the curtains and into the soul of your partner - where you can see all the murky fears that make it hard to trust you and let you in.

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Rules About What Makes Relationships Last Stop Them From Ever Starting -part 8
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Rules About What Makes Relationships Last Stop Them From Ever Starting -part 8

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Rules About What Makes Relationships Last Stop Them From Ever Starting -part 8

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00December 20th, 2013|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

If you are struggling with finding a lasting relationship that you can enjoy no matter how stressful the ups and downs, it's likely that you have some deep and powerful unconscious rules about what makes people stick together. You may think that love and attraction are enough to maintain commitment and loyalty but underneath you probably believe that you have to be a certain way, act and think in a specific fashion AND MOST OF ALL that your partner has to do the same. These rules prevent you from giving the relationship a chance to find it's feet. You can't even get to first base because your unconscious relationship rules make you heightened to WHAT IS ABSENT rather than build and shape healthy intimacy, trust and security.

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Why your Sex Life Goes from Fantastic to Boring in the blink of an eye!
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Why your Sex Life Goes from Fantastic to Boring in the blink of an eye!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Why your Sex Life Goes from Fantastic to Boring in the blink of an eye!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T17:55:00+00:00January 4th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

If you find that you can't get enough of good sex with your partner at some times but hate the thought of it later, you may be at the mercy of a set of mental factors that turn on the green light for short intervals, while staying on red for long spells. In the green light time zones you see each other as desirable and comforting, but during the red light time periods you perceive each other as robots who need to do their duty and kill off intimacy by making demands and comparisons that are impossible to overcome. Learn two ways you can keep the green light on for longer and on a lasting basis for your constant enjoyment of physical intimacy.

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Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!
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Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Perfectionism may be ruining your intimate relationships!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T18:03:27+00:00September 7th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

When you are upset that you aren't as perfect as you aimed for, you may criticize yourself, feel bad about yourself and then withdraw from the people you love. Your sense of being imperfect makes you fearful of getting close. You turn inward and shut loved ones out, making your intimate connections dissolve. Research indicates that the self-critical part of perfectionism is the most destructive force to intimacy.

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How does your style of eye contact impact relationship satisfaction?
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How does your style of eye contact impact relationship satisfaction?

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, Uncategorized

How does your style of eye contact impact relationship satisfaction?

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T20:09:58+00:00August 31st, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, Uncategorized|

The way you and your partner look at each other predicts healthy versus unhealthy intimacy, and ultimately your relationship satisfaction. Find out how your pattern of eye contact influences how you talk about your relationship and influences your sense of autonomy and togetherness.

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Are you dying for affection but cringe when it comes?
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Are you dying for affection but cringe when it comes?

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Are you dying for affection but cringe when it comes?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:30+00:00June 28th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Faye wanted a big hug lingering hug so badly that when she was with a trusted friend who had offered it many times before, she asked for it and got it. It was wonderful to feel her friend’s arms holding her with the gentlest of pressure, and not letting go until Faye was ready. It brought tears to her eyes and made her feel like she was going to fall apart. The first wave of intense emotion scared her. She felt like she would cry forever and never recover her normal self again. She broke away from the embrace, embarrassed and out of control.

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How to deal with the “damned if I do, and damned if I don’t situation!
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How to deal with the “damned if I do, and damned if I don’t situation!

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

How to deal with the “damned if I do, and damned if I don’t situation!

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T18:25:06+00:00June 25th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Walking on egg shells to avoid hurting others or having what you said come back to bite you saps your motivation to be in a relationship. It becomes work rather than a natural flow of communication that allows for each person to share what's on their mind. Discover the two benefits of being open and frank that will enhance and improve the relationship, while giving you the right to say what you want without censoring every word.

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Do you have to give up your past in order to have a loving future?
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Do you have to give up your past in order to have a loving future?

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Do you have to give up your past in order to have a loving future?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:30+00:00June 21st, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Fear of giving up your past and who you are in order to be loved messes up your chances of having a successful and stable relationship. Discover how to know, feel and believe that you are loveable while still retaining your troubled history and what it means for you.

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How to make your imagined relationship into a reality!
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How to make your imagined relationship into a reality!

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy

How to make your imagined relationship into a reality!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:30+00:00June 18th, 2011|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy|

Breath life into your imagined vision of a warm connection with this tip and avoid constant disappointments that make you cynical about investing in relationship. Use this expert relationship tip to help your vision take root and fulfill your joyful visions in the real world.

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