“I’m just even,” 38-year old Francesca said, as she moved her right palm horizontally in a flat line. She said that nothing felt palatable; and that if she felt some excitement at being asked to go out with a friend, it died down almost immediately. She couldn’t keep the flame of desire going long [...]
One of the most common fears people have in romantic relationships is about being needy. It arouses shame, followed by a massive attempt to compensate. Often it takes the form of becoming totally self-sufficient to the point of avoiding all social contact. The result: isolation, lack of emotional intimacy, leading to insecurity and depression – which in turn makes you more ‘needy.’
Panic attacks may come when loved ones abuse you emotionally and verbally, but you can't stand up to them. When you are dependent on those who abuse you because you fear going it alone, the only way you can deal with the dilemma is to have panic attacks. Learn how to empower yourself with fearing the loss of the relationship ties, while avoiding the abuse.
