When you are anxious about not being able to please your loved ones and putting the relationship at risk, you may be blurring the boundaries of responsibility, and become overwhelmed with anxiety. Learn the three ways you can get grounded and achieve your purpose without stress and anxiety turning you into a mess.
Wanting to feel valued and helpful to your partner is very normal and natural. It's frustrating when your efforts are rejected and problems just get worse. There is a secret to getting your help accepted and valued. It's about timing and setting the stage so that your partner will be receptive and hungry for your help. The right order of business is crucial. Learn the four step process to making sure your partner values your help.
Panic attacks can shock and disturb your sense of equilibrium. Understanding their message can help you deal with the unfinished business left over from your past life. But first you have to get past the shame about having feelings, thoughts and needs that you no longer approve of. Panic attacks fill your radar with shame and force you to deal with things you have avoided but cannot afford to ignore any longer.
Panic attacks can make you feel like you are going crazy but they have a purpose. Understanding the struggles and traps you feel caught up in take away the shame and helplessness you feel when you are hostage to the panic attacks. Read John's story about the conflict he had making choices about his life and taking care of family- his panic attacks came to force him to face his dilemma and be truly in charge of his life.
An inability to trust people who said they would do their job and care for her made Sharon exhausted with having to do everything herself. She was always let down if she asked for help and sharing of responsibility. Sharon was caught between wanting to believe and trust but couldn't put herself at risk of having to take over and be the adult all the time. It made her furious and exhausted. Learn about the three steps Sharon needs to take to build up enough trust to let people help her rather than stand in for her irresponsible promise breaking parents who take the tongue lashing on their behalf.
Keeping silent to protect your partner from feeling bad actually makes them feel worse. They get stressed, suspicious and feel estranged from you. Research indicates that avoiding one another works against successful relationships, and constant worry about the feelings of your partner makes you dissatisfied and want to opt out. Learn 3 ways to communicate honestly and build healthy connections.
blaming yourself for things going wrong can save your relationship but ultimately make you drown in bitterness. The stress of swallowing it all weakens your immune system and causes depression, gastric problems and eating disorders. Learn how to share experiences with loved ones so that you can participate in a more equitable, secure, stable and safe relationship that turns the bitterness into sweetness.
Are you conflicted between the vision of improvement and the comfort of having no change? Then you leave yourself open to fear being your only motivator. Why wait to be stressed out by overwhelming fear as your engine. Learn to use your own power and desire to get you behind the wheel of your own life.
video tip - Get connected to people and feel full with what they have to share instead of guarding yourself for fear your treasures are going to be robbed and used by others. Learn to give and receive so that sharing becomes a way to connect and feel fulfilled.
Are you driven by shame, fear and punishment? Then you have to go down to rock bottom before you pick yourself up and achieve your goals for good relationships and positive self-esteem. Learn how to bypass the shame and feel worthwhile again.
