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How to get your loved one to prove their love without using anger

Despite five years of living with Martin, Tanya was still competing with Martin's mother for the top spot in his attentions. She wanted to feel his soft responsiveness - she Tanya wanted to be his one and only. She had a very clear picture of how things should be if Martin was truly committed to her The zoom lens in her mind zeroed in on Martin and Tanya holding hands in the forefront. All other family members were wallpaper in the background. A savage bile rose in Tanya's throat as she heard Martin talk to his mother on the phone. His patient, understanding and placating voice made Tanya want to cut the wire on the land line and smash up his cell phone.

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:50:32+00:00August 14th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|Comments Off

Why 9 out of 10 Apologies Fail to Improve Relationships
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Why 9 out of 10 Apologies Fail to Improve Relationships

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Why 9 out of 10 Apologies Fail to Improve Relationships

How many times has a loved one apologized to you and then cancelled it by acting in the very same way as before? Does it just take the sting out it, leaving the wound open? Nine out of ten apologies do more to help the person making the apology than the person who needs and deserves a genuine apology. So how do you tell the difference between the 9 fakes and the 1 real deal? See if you can pick out the 1 true apology from the 10 types of apology below.

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:23+00:00August 13th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|Comments Off

Is your chronic fatigue linked to stress and painful emotions?

The diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome stunned Patsy and her husband. How could she have this condition for which there was no physical cause? It just didn’t make sense that her body was suffering real exhaustion and lack of energy when every organ and system was working efficiently. Patsy felt accused of malingering. She felt ashamed to speak about her constant fatigue without having a medical reason for it. Unable to handle the implication that she was a bit ‘screwed up’ and weak, Patsy refused to join a support group. She decided to struggle on and push past the exhaustion.

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:52:50+00:00August 11th, 2012|stress|Comments Off

Angry that your partner isn’t who you signed up for?

There was no happy smile. There was no light in her eyes. There was no bear hug. There was no gasp of welcoming delight. Jeremy's expectation of a warm and affectionate homecoming was decimated. Wasn't it only yesterday that they had exchanged messages of longing to see one another? Wasn't it only a minute ago that his whole body was throbbing in anticipation of feeling held by his wife as if he was her most precious possession? What could have changed in such a short time? Shock, disappointment and anger began to rise up and choke him.

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:48:36+00:00August 11th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|Comments Off

Five ways to manage the anger of getting dumped by your loved one.

Why Does Sharon Reject the Very Thing She Wants? Because she wants two different things at the same time. The trouble is she is only aware of one of them- wanting a nice guy and a successful relationship. But there is also something else she craves and that is to feel powerful, and in charge of her life. She isn't in touch with her need for power, so she can't figure out why she keeps sabotaging good relationships. She is mystified as to why what seems wonderful at the beginning turns sour very soon afterwards.

By adminla|2017-09-11T17:24:24+00:00August 11th, 2012|Breakups and Separation|Comments Off

Are you worrying yourself into insomnia?

Simple jobs that took fifteen minutes now seemed to take over two hours and slowed down the entire creative process. Colleagues withdrew as she became increasingly irritable and impatient. Meredith tried to compensate by putting in longer hours but that made matters worse. Her work load increased as mistakes piled up. She had to face the fact that her erratic sleep pattern was having a disastrous effect on her performance.

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:45:51+00:00August 11th, 2012|stress|Comments Off

How To Manage Doubt and Loneliness After You Have Broken Up With Your Partner
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How To Manage Doubt and Loneliness After You Have Broken Up With Your Partner

Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, separation counseling

How To Manage Doubt and Loneliness After You Have Broken Up With Your Partner

So you finally got up the nerve to break up with your partner who just wasn't a good fit! The relief is wonderful, but in creeps some doubt, some guilt, some loneliness! The stress is overwhelming! You notice a hole in your life that gets bigger, and that makes you wonder if you did the right thing. You go back and for with wanting to get back together and enjoying the relief of not having to take care of someone else's feelings. How do you fill that hole and feel good about your decision to do what was right for you?

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-13T17:08:26+00:00August 10th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Breakups and Separation, separation counseling|Comments Off

Cure insomnia by dealing with anger and relationship stress

Sleepless nights turned into weeks of irritability and stress. He wished he could stop worrying about his girlfriend’s commitment to their relationship. The thought of restful sleep was alluring, but anxiety kept his mind spinning. He went over their conversations imagining the outcome if he had said one thing rather than another. He was trying to undo mistakes in his mind, or he was way ahead in the future preparing for bad things that may happen. All the good sleep hygiene rules that he followed failed to help him relax and fall asleep. He found it hard to relax and enjoy any moment for fear he would take his eye off the ball and land up in a big mess. Stress induced insomnia, brought on more stress and that in turn made sleeping less likely.

By adminla|2017-09-13T17:57:43+00:00August 10th, 2012|stress|Comments Off

Is anger the cause of your skin breakouts?

Jeff the Spa manager asked to speak to Maggie the next day as she started her shift. He wanted to get the skinny on what was brewing among the staff. He trusted Maggie and let her know that her cooperation would be remembered and rewarded. Maggie wanted the ground to open up and swallow her whole. She didn't want to snitch, nor did she want to keep Jeff in the dark. He was good to her, and he was paying her salary. She tried to change the subject and talk about new ideas to improve the services of the spa. The phone rang just in time. She escaped, but her face, neck and arms broke out in a raw, red itchy rash.

By adminla|2017-09-13T18:19:19+00:00August 9th, 2012|stress|Comments Off

Five Ways to Find and Keep Available Partners Without Sabotaging Yourself!
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Five Ways to Find and Keep Available Partners Without Sabotaging Yourself!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Five Ways to Find and Keep Available Partners Without Sabotaging Yourself!

Sharon enjoyed the flirting until Rudolph asked if she'd like to go out with him on a date. In the blink of an eye she said "Oh, I can't. I'm really tied up and I'm not sure when I'll be free." It was as if Rudolph had pushed a panic button inside her and she had to destroy everything in her path to escape the danger that erupted out of nowhere. Relief swept over Sharon as she drove home. But she couldn't sleep. During the next few days she felt that old familiar sadness overwhelm her again. If only Rudolph would call. When he had walked over to her at the party she had come alive. He was just the sort of man she wanted, reasonably good looking, clean shaven, self-assured and seemingly well off. She smiled thinking about how she played hard to get before she allowed him to catch her.

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-14T20:28:02+00:00August 8th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|Comments Off