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Manage your anger when your kids drive you nuts!

By |2017-05-22T23:03:37+00:00September 28th, 2012|Parenting Counseling|

Josephine's heart sank. Yesterday morning her son had thanked her for the ride to school. Now that flash of gratitude and respect she received seemed like a mirage. Her hopes were dashed when she heard his abusive voice demanding a new cell phone after she had just bought him skiing lessons and the necessary equipment. Disappointment turned to rage as Josephine realized that her sixteen year old son Morgan had successfully manipulated her. He was intimately acquainted with her weak spot, and went for it with impunity.

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How To Feel Included When You Feel Alone In a Group

By |2017-09-13T19:33:44+00:00September 28th, 2012|Intimacy|

Do you feel as if you are on a distant planet when you are with a group of friends or family? Are you lost and lonely not knowing how to get in and feel like you belong? Perhaps you feel like an invisible onlooker rather than an active participant? It's a sad and scary feeling, to be among people you like and love, yet feel so cut off. Maybe you wish someone would see how much you want to be included and bring you into the fold! The problem is that the people in the group have no idea how isolated you feel and think that you are comfortable on the sidelines.

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Reducing anger when your partner misunderstands your motives

By |2017-09-13T18:21:06+00:00September 27th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

" Why are you checking up on me? You must think I'm an idiot! You just don't believe I can handle this do you?" Kodi responded, irritated and upset at her insinuations. " You never tell me anything unless I pry it out of you. I want to know what goes on in your life, because I'm your partner." Cianna reacted with indignation. " You treat me like a child, always asking me if I did something or how I did it. I don't have to be accountable to you. You're not my mother!" Kodi roared as he tried to retain a modicum of ownership over his own life.

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Dealing with anger when you feel emotionally blackmailed

By |2017-09-13T17:21:19+00:00September 27th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Fabienne drooled over that gorgeous pair of shoes in the store window. Just for once she wanted to indulge herself by splurging on something personal that wasn't an absolute necessity. She had spoken to Larry about it and he gave her the go ahead. This weekend she was going to treat herself without doubts or guilt.........Saturday morning Larry twisted the knife...............Fabienne's heart flew out of her chest. Her jaw tightened, her teeth ground together and her body went rigid. Gasps of indignation and disbelief gathered in her throat.........

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Managing anger that comes from feeling unwanted and insecure

By |2017-09-13T18:53:01+00:00September 26th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling|

Watching Tom rapt in conversation with their guests made Roxy feel left out and unimportant. Almost as if he heard her wish, Tom asked her for her opinion of the movie they were all talking about. She could hardly speak. She didn't want to be brought in out of pity or courtesy. She wanted Tom to feel her absence and truly desire her opinion, not just act politely ....The only trouble was that Roxie did want him to take another stab at reading her feelings. She didn't want to be just one voice among many but the center of Tom's attention.

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Is envious anger stopping you from connecting with loved ones?

By |2017-09-13T17:22:11+00:00September 26th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling, Parenting Counseling|

Driving along in a state of utter despair, Vicky realized that she resented her son. She was actually jealous of him. Why did he get so much, and why had she got so little? Why did she have to fight for attention, while her son got it just for being her child? As a mother Vicky wants to do the right things and give her son the kind of life she never had. She wants to be the parent to her son that she dreamed of having herself. Usually Vicky is a good, responsible mother. But when Lynn isn't satisfied with her thoughtful sacrifices he turns into her ungrateful father, getting all the good stuff, and she becomes the envious child wanting to spoil his fun.

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How To Transition Between Loved Ones Without Feeling Insecure

By |2017-05-22T23:01:55+00:00September 24th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, separation counseling|

Do you find yourself tuning off from the person you are with when you know there is going to be a temporary break in your relationship? Is your mind already thinking about the next person or group you are going to be meeting while you are still with your current friend or partner? Then you are probably trying to protect yourself from the pain of separating before it happens by shutting it down while you still have power over it. You may get a sense of control by turning the tap off rather than waiting for it to run dry. But you end up depriving yourself of the love and security that is available for you to enjoy and stock up on.

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Enjoying The Now Relationships Instead Of Waiting For Some Future Pleasure

By |2016-12-13T05:19:23+00:00September 21st, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Are you so eager to see friends or loved ones that you haven't seen for a while that you miss out on what is available to you in the moment? Do you find yourself imagining the future with your long lost connections that you dismiss or devalue what you are receiving in the here and now? Then you are doing a great disservice to yourself and to the people you are with. You are depriving yourself of feeling loved and wanted by those actually with you, and giving them the message that they are no longer on your radar. That can make it hard when you want to reconnect or when you feel the loss of them down the road. You may be afraid that you have to push the old stuff away to make room for the new, but that isn't true.

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Coping with anger when your partner listens to everyone else except you!

By |2017-09-11T20:32:03+00:00September 20th, 2012|Blog|

Valerie was hurt and upset. Barry dismissed her plans for the Thanksgiving holiday but supported the same proposals coming from cousin Ruth. What made it even worse was that Barry seemed oblivious to the stinging rebuke he had dealt his wife. Silenced by the lump growing in her throat and the hot tears pricking her eyes, Valerie pretended to be busy in the kitchen. She had to get a grip on herself for the sake of her guests.

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Refocusing your anger can create the security in relationships you long for

By |2017-09-13T18:22:59+00:00September 19th, 2012|Anger Management Counseling, Insecurity Counseling|

A barrage of customer complaints roused Reuben’s anger. It wasn’t his fault that the city was doing sidewalk repairs and making it difficult for people to enter his cafe for lunch. His anger got worse when his regulars didn’t pay attention to the signs he had put up to warn them of this inconvenience. Each customer had a few minutes of frustration , but he had to suffer entire days of it!

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