Torn between being herself and risking rejection Delia tried to be the perfect hostess but failed. She braced herself by becoming guarded and confused her friends. They reacted with uncertainty which Delia interpreted as rejection. A self-fulfilling prophecy borne of rejection sensitivity. Looking through the lens of others can dramatically change the outlook for Delia and help improve her self-esteem.
Does your mood and self-esteem change according to how well you think you did in a job or project? Then you may be attributing your feelings to the activity you perform and that is a mistake. The truth is more to do with the nature of the relationship you have with the people you work with. Distinguishing between the activity and the person you do it with makes all the difference to finding consistent satisfaction.
Learn how to listen for the hidden wish for connection disguised as nagging orders from your loved ones. Get past the smoke screen and hear the real need for closeness and intimacy with you that comes across as ordering you around.
Guilt that goes with impacting others negatively keeps you locked in a fortress without intimacy. Fear of others impacting you with love in case you become needy makes you turn loved ones into fortresses. Either way intimacy is lost and loneliness takes over. Learn why impacting each other is a good sign of love, caring and necessary for strong healthy relationships.
Declan thought that giving up his passionate hobby was the way to avoid his partner's mocking words, but his self-sacrifice backfired. Relationship quality decreased because he was motivated to take away bad stuff rather than reach for the good stuff. Learn what research tells us about what type of self-sacrifice improves the quality and satisfaction ratings of intimate relationships.
Conversation tips for dating couples to bring the experience alive. Avoid the same old boring questions and answers that make you wish you hadn't bothered. Learn how to ask and respond to each other in ways that assures a connection which makes you both feel special.
Do you have a mini panic attack every time you try to clear out your clutter? Do you have trouble parting with your possessions because it feels like a part of you, then you may be using your material possessions as a substitute for emotional security. If your relationships make you feel empty and let you down, possessions fill the hole. Follow the 4 steps to gain emotional security and your clutter will disappear all by itself!
fatigue caused by stress comes from relationship insecurity. Working hard to win love makes stress worse, makes you more tired binging on junk food for energy. Connecting with your loved ones in ways that make you feel loved and cared for is the best antidote to fatigue, by giving you natural energy that carries you through the day in a motivated and positive way.
