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Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2
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Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T15:32:05+00:00July 21st, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Which of these options represents your view of commitment? Jail where you give someone someone else the authority in order to make sure you get loved OR Agreement to join forces and walk together along a chosen path, giving and receiving love while maintaining your autonomy. If your heart sank when you chose the first option then you must be fearful of committing and resent having to do it in order to get loved. You don't have to fear that type of commitment any longer. It's all about your perception of commitment - this video shows you how to change it to one where you maintain authority over yourself while allowing yourself to step in and out of another person's life and vice versa.

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Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?
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Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00July 7th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Are you locked out of your partner's heart no matter how hard you try to make contact? Do you retaliate by locking them out too? Then you are trapped in a cycle of never connecting and feeling insecure and stressed about the status of your relationship. BUT imagine how different it could be if you discovered the fears that your partner had of letting you in close! WHAT IF you could peek into their inner sanctum and learn how scared they were of you seeing their most private parts? YOU COULD FIND WAYS TO KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND BE WELCOMED IN YOU COULD REDUCE THE FEAR AND GET A FOOTHOLD INTO THEIR SOUL YOU COULD GAIN EMOTIONAL INTIMACY, FEEL WANTED, IMPORTANT, SPECIAL AND TREASURED.

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Why Your Partner Rejects You When You Try to Get Close – part 1

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 24th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Are you ready to give up on your relationship because your partner shuts you out and keeps you out each time you try to connect? Are you fed up with being treated like a monster instead of a lover and a loving partner? Maybe you are wondering what on earth is making your partner push you away and spurn your efforts to get emotionally intimate! This video is the first in a series that takes you behind the curtains and into the soul of your partner - where you can see all the murky fears that make it hard to trust you and let you in.

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The Real Fear Behind Fear of Committment
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The Real Fear Behind Fear of Committment

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

The Real Fear Behind Fear of Committment

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-11T19:42:21+00:00June 11th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Are you longing to feel like you have a partner that is a good fit and that you are finally settling down, but wonder why you can't commit? Do you find that the person you are attracted to seems inviting and loving, but that you have doubts about whether there is someone out there even more suitable? Then you are caught in a conflict about what attachment and commitment means to you. One part of you is in touch with the comfort, the love and attention, the togetherness and the bliss of feeling close. But another part of you is scared you will have to give up your right to think for yourself and be your own person. So you end up regretting decisions you make to commit because as soon as you do, it's as if you have just given yourself a term of life in jail.

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How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?
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How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00May 30th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Whenever thirty-six-year-old Danny saw his twenty-nine-year-old partner Liz upset and crying about something he didn’t do, or something expectation he hadn’t met, he would start to feel guilty and ashamed and obey her demands for an apology. He wanted her to stop crying and rescue him from the guilt and shame. He wasn’t really interested in her feelings and how she interpreted his behavior. Each time he apologized she got more angry and would either shut down or berate him even more. Danny floundered, not knowing what to do next or how to keep their connection intact. When he felt aggrieved with Liz for not appreciating his thoughtfulness or his help around the house, he wouldn’t tell her about it. He wanted her to feel bad and apologize for snubbing him, but he wasn’t going to ask. He imagined how sweet it would be when she eventually ate humble pie and begged him to take the apology and resume normal relations

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Constant Arguments With Family and Friends Shorten Your LIfe
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Constant Arguments With Family and Friends Shorten Your LIfe

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

Constant Arguments With Family and Friends Shorten Your LIfe

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00May 14th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

At the age of fifty three Simon dropped dead one evening while sitting on the settee with a drink to unwind after his long and tense day. His three teenage children didn’t notice as they ran around absorbed in their cell phones, while his fifty year old wife Renee busied herself in the kitchen preparing dinner. Success in his limousine business had been hard to come by, but for the last 5 years he grew his customer base and brought home more money. The family home was just the way he and Renee had planned and he had a good network of support in his family and community. He belonged to the local gym, and liked to watch NASCAR racing with his friends. But one thing never got any better – that is the demands made on him by his wife, children, extended family and business partner.

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What Frowning Reveals About the Stress Level of Your Marriage
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What Frowning Reveals About the Stress Level of Your Marriage

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, stress

What Frowning Reveals About the Stress Level of Your Marriage

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T20:02:17+00:00May 3rd, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, stress|

After nine years of marriage bringing up three children , thirty-two-year-old Maria faced each day reluctantly. Her body felt heavy and the thought of doing another endless round of chores at home and after school activities with her kids made her head and neck hurt. Her thirty-four-year-old husband Carl’s invitation to take her out to dinner barely blipped on her radar. She registered his intention to be kind and cheer her up but within 10 seconds of acknowledging it, her forehead creased up in a tightly knitted frown, just as it had been before he made the offer.

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How To Behave When You Start Dating Again After A Break

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00April 11th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, separation counseling|

Are you getting ready to re-enter the dating scene after a break or finding yourself newly single? Do you worry about what to say and how much to disclose in the first few dates? Maybe you are concerned about whether you are interesting enough to hold the attention of a prospective date! These are common worries and reflect some insecurity about yourself, perhaps because you have had bad experiences of dating. But, you have made the decision to date and you'd like some tips on the best way to approach it after reentering the dating scene. This video gives you the inside scoop on exactly how to be with yourself and your date so that you have the best chance of success in that moment and in the future if things work out.

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Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?
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Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?

By dr_j_raymond|2018-10-15T23:28:18+00:00March 21st, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Are you frustrated with having good people in your life but no one that sparks that romantic fire? Do you find yourself irresistibly attracted to someone who is hot and steamy, but does nothing for you in the friendship department? Perhaps you wonder whether you will ever find a person whom you could trust and rely on while also having good sex. It's probable that you are keeping these two needs so separate that you have to split yourself in half in order to satisfy both parts. But it doesn't have to be that way - if you figure out what purpose it serves to tear yourself into two pieces.

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Dealing With Jealousy When Your Partner is Attracted to Someone Else
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Dealing With Jealousy When Your Partner is Attracted to Someone Else

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Dealing With Jealousy When Your Partner is Attracted to Someone Else

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00February 27th, 2014|Anxiety therapy|

Twenty-six year old salad bar manager Dominque’s stomach churned as she pictured her twenty-nine-year-old finance Terry, a copy editor, in a cozy chat with his colleague Brenda at their office party last month. There was something about the way they locked eyes and sidled up to one-and-other that sent jolts of bitter jealousy all through her body. Well, she wasn’t going to fade away into the background at Terry’s office party tonight, seething with jealousy, waiting to punish Terry on the ride home. This time she was going armed with an arsenal of weapons that were the perfect match for Brenda’s seductive qualities.

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