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Conflicting Secret Wishes And Motives Threaten Your Marriage Big Time!

By |2017-09-13T17:56:15+00:00November 7th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Have you ever wanted to say “no” to your partner when they wanted to go away on a trip with friends or family but didn’t because you wanted to feel unselfish? Then you have experienced the tension of conflicting motives, just like twenty-six year old Dianne did when her husband Neil had to leave her and take care of family business. She faced a tug of war between her secret wish for him to pick her over everyone else, and her overt desire to put his needs before her own by appearing supportive and encouraging.

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Do You Feel Abandoned When Your Partner Is With Family And Friends?

By |2017-09-13T18:27:59+00:00October 30th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Do you get upset when your loved one wants to spend time with a friend or a relative? Does it feel like you are being discarded or abandoned? Are you also angry and ashamed of your feelings since you “know” that there is nothing disloyal or sinister in their motives? You don’t know whether to give into the feelings and have it out with your loved one or tell yourself to suck it up, grow up and step up! You find that if you ignore your feelings, then you take the risk of nursing the pain indefinitely and that isn’t appealing. If you show your hurt and anger then you risk feeling ashamed of your childish behavior and that doesn’t you feel good in the relationship.

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Dealing With a Loved One Who Refuses To Talk When You Want To

By |2016-12-13T05:19:20+00:00October 26th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Do you feel blown away into the wind when your loved one refuses to talk to you when you approach them? Are you hurt, angry and bitterly disappointed that all the work you put into getting ready to address an important issue in the relationship is now for nothing? Do you feel like you have no control over when your loved one is receptive, or when they will ever be? That is very frustrating and stressful. Not knowing when your partner is going to be in the mood means you have to stuff your feelings that you took a while to put in a way that you imagined would be acceptable, but now you have been gagged, yet again. Are you ready to stand up for yourself and your relationship by calling your loved one out in a way they can't ignore?

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Getting Proof That Your Partner Is Committed To You

By |2017-09-13T18:13:29+00:00October 19th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Anxiety Treatment, Communication Problems, Intimacy|

Do you get so frustrated with the uncertainty of not knowing whether your relationship is off or on that you consider making your partner jealous? Do you have visions of flirting with someone else just to get a reaction from your partner that will show you that you belong to them? Are you needing to test your partner and the bonds of your relationship by bringing in a potential rival so that your partner will claim you and be true to you forever more? That sounds exhausting and very unsatisfying? When will it be enough? Will you have to keep doing it every time you feel insecure? Think of the damage it could do to the relationship in the long run, and the stress that you have to endure to keep your security levels topped up?

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Stop The Stress Of Conflict And Reconnect With Your Loved One

By |2017-09-14T20:38:31+00:00October 15th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues, stress|

Does the stress of fighting with your loved one linger for hours if not days? Does the discomfort of the conflict turn into uncertainty about the status of the relationship? Then you must be aware that all that stress and anxiety clogs up the communication channels preventing transparency about how the relationship is faring from moment to moment. It’s an awful place when neither of you know what the other is thinking or feeling and so you jump to the worst case scenario, adding even more stress to an already charged situation. You are left holding your breath with anxiety about how things will turn out and what the long term damage will be to the nature of your connection. Why wait helplessly to find out how long the crack in the relationship will last or who if anyone should make the move to repair it? There is a much easier way to reestablish the connection you had before the conflict that can make you feel calmer, closer and more secure in the blink of an eye as Bridget and Patrick’s experience shows.

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Do You Suffer In Silence In Order To Prove Your Love?

By |2017-09-13T20:01:20+00:00October 1st, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Were you brought up to believe that if you suffering is the road to earning love? Do you expect the same from your loved ones? If so your life may be all suffering and no love! Learn how to recognize, accept and receive love in ways that don't force others to be sacrifical nor turn you into a dried up lonely and angry family member.

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How To Feel Included When You Feel Alone In a Group

By |2017-09-13T19:33:44+00:00September 28th, 2012|Intimacy|

Do you feel as if you are on a distant planet when you are with a group of friends or family? Are you lost and lonely not knowing how to get in and feel like you belong? Perhaps you feel like an invisible onlooker rather than an active participant? It's a sad and scary feeling, to be among people you like and love, yet feel so cut off. Maybe you wish someone would see how much you want to be included and bring you into the fold! The problem is that the people in the group have no idea how isolated you feel and think that you are comfortable on the sidelines.

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How To Transition Between Loved Ones Without Feeling Insecure

By |2017-05-22T23:01:55+00:00September 24th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, separation counseling|

Do you find yourself tuning off from the person you are with when you know there is going to be a temporary break in your relationship? Is your mind already thinking about the next person or group you are going to be meeting while you are still with your current friend or partner? Then you are probably trying to protect yourself from the pain of separating before it happens by shutting it down while you still have power over it. You may get a sense of control by turning the tap off rather than waiting for it to run dry. But you end up depriving yourself of the love and security that is available for you to enjoy and stock up on.

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The Two Most Serious Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

By |2016-12-13T05:19:23+00:00August 17th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Does your heart skip a beat when your partner wants to go out with friends or do something without you? Do you have lots of little tiffs and spats for no particular reason than to engage each other? Then it's likely that your relationship is based on fear rather than love. The chances of you splitting up are massive. Watch this video and learn how to recognize the 2 most serious signs of an unhealthy relationship, and the two most hopeful signs of healthy relationship.

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Why 9 out of 10 Apologies Fail to Improve Relationships

By |2016-12-13T05:19:23+00:00August 13th, 2012|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

How many times has a loved one apologized to you and then cancelled it by acting in the very same way as before? Does it just take the sting out it, leaving the wound open? Nine out of ten apologies do more to help the person making the apology than the person who needs and deserves a genuine apology. So how do you tell the difference between the 9 fakes and the 1 real deal? See if you can pick out the 1 true apology from the 10 types of apology below.

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