Between 40% to 76% of partners cheat at least once in a romantic relationship. Men and women cheat in similar ways. Your style of attachment determines whether you are going to cheat and whether you care more about sexual versus emotional infidelity. There are four pointers that make you likely to cheat. One is if you prefer autonomy over commitment. Read the others, and get an audio tip on reducing fear intimacy.
Relationships were hard work and Shirley was angry about it. There was no end to it. That made her even more angry. The angrier Shirley became the less her husband and children wanted to be near her. They too felt that they had to please her in order to be loved and accepted. Proving love through obedience rather than through a genuine joy of sharing herself with her family became the name of the game.
Playing with your partner rather than alongside your partner keeps you in the moment, and helps you lower your guard. Physical activities such as playing in the sand or in a pool build trust, whereas competitive games like golf or chess set the stage for winning and losing, creating distance in the process. Playing spontaneously brings naturalness and vulnerability that promotes intimacy.
You know what it’s like after a disagreement or fight when you don’t want to be the first to speak, to make up, to get things back on a good footing with your loved one? So instead of waiting for your partner to go first, take a step toward intimacy by sharing your feelings. It will bring you nine positive outcomes including contentment that you are accepted, and more space and attention to be fully present in the moment
