Relationship Advice Tips from Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.
photograph copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.
Do you like to think of yourself as giving and unselfish?
Do you get stressed out if you think you have lapsed and been selfish or thoughtless?
Do you work really hard at putting your loved ones first and being there for them, staying in the background yourself?
Then you are actually defeating your goal of being unselfish!
Keeping yourself out of the picture deprives others of the most precious parts of you, the person you are, rather than the actions you perform. That makes it a selfish move!
It lands you in therapy, trying to fix what you thought was the ideal way of relating.
Watch this video and learn how to give and receive in an unselfish way
copyright, Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.
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Disclaimer: this video if for informational and educational purposes only. There is no liability on the part of Dr. Raymond for any reactions you may have while watching the video or implementing any of the suggestions therein. Interacting with this material does not constitute a therapeutic relationship with Dr. Raymond.
This is a big reason why I avoid relationships altogether. Thinking of others is wrong, thinking about yourself is wrong. Expressing feelings makes everyone upset, holding in feelings makes you upset.
No one wants the real you if it isn’t smiling, pleseant, and even keel. No one bothers nowadays or even cares.
Be yourself—just don’t be you.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t—no matter what you do, it’s always wrong.
Your frustration rings loud and clear. Being true to yourself keeps you grounded whether or not people like it, they will respect you for not trying to buy their attention or pretend.