dr_j_raymond, Author at LA Westside Therapy

Imagine Couples Therapy with Ray Rice and His Wife!
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Imagine Couples Therapy with Ray Rice and His Wife!

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Imagine Couples Therapy with Ray Rice and His Wife!

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00September 19th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

The fact that Ray Rice's finance married him despite being physically abused, means that the relationship was and continues to be extremely important to her. When someone is more afraid of losing a relationship than of being abused, they live with stress and insecurity, trying hard to make sure never to anger their partner. But that doesn't mean they have to live like that forever more! Attending couples therapy can make both Ray and his wife relate on a level that keeps their marriage strong but without the threat or experience of physical, verbal or emotional abuse.

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Six Things Men Want Their Women To Know But Are Too Afraid To Tell Them

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00August 25th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy|

Ladies, did you know that men aren't just interested in sex and actually want to play and have fun with you? Research published in July 2014 from Columbia University School of Public Health found that young men want emotional closeness and not just sex. The American Sociology Society reported in August 2014 that it is women who have affairs do so for the sex when their passions aren't met by their husbands - they aren't interested in emotional intimacy or divorce. When you get too serious about being the 'perfect' partner your man feels that he no longer means anything to you, except a trophy, a 'Mr. Fixit' or an object of sex - just so you get to feel like you are doing your duty as a ma

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How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy
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How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

How to Create A Sense of Togetherness and Enjoy Emotional Intimacy

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00August 18th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Most couples I see in my therapy office say they want to feel like they are 'on the same team' and 'on the same page', but when we explore how they live their lives, there is very little sign of togetherness. Couples usually divide up the jobs that need to get done, and want recognition for it. So they spend their times separate from one and other and only come together for the short moment to get a pat on the back. Couples try to get their ideas and strategies for making life smooth onto the top of the list, without collaborating and making a joint list where they both have a valuable place.

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Four Ways Emotional Intimacy Benefits Your Health
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Four Ways Emotional Intimacy Benefits Your Health

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues

Four Ways Emotional Intimacy Benefits Your Health

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00August 4th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Emotional closeness in a relationship is the key to a stable, secure and satisfying connection that makes a couple more resilient to the stresses and strains of living together. Here are a few benefits that emotional intimacy can provide for couples over the long term: One of the main benefits of intimacy is that it releases the hormone oxytocin which promotes bonding and solidifies the relationship, boosting optimal health.

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Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2
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Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2

Anxiety therapy, Intimacy

Five Tips on How To Conquer The Fear of Commitment – Part 2

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-29T15:32:05+00:00July 21st, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Which of these options represents your view of commitment? Jail where you give someone someone else the authority in order to make sure you get loved OR Agreement to join forces and walk together along a chosen path, giving and receiving love while maintaining your autonomy. If your heart sank when you chose the first option then you must be fearful of committing and resent having to do it in order to get loved. You don't have to fear that type of commitment any longer. It's all about your perception of commitment - this video shows you how to change it to one where you maintain authority over yourself while allowing yourself to step in and out of another person's life and vice versa.

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Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?
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Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

Why Does Your Partner Make No Room For You When You Try to Get Close?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00July 7th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Are you locked out of your partner's heart no matter how hard you try to make contact? Do you retaliate by locking them out too? Then you are trapped in a cycle of never connecting and feeling insecure and stressed about the status of your relationship. BUT imagine how different it could be if you discovered the fears that your partner had of letting you in close! WHAT IF you could peek into their inner sanctum and learn how scared they were of you seeing their most private parts? YOU COULD FIND WAYS TO KNOCK ON THE DOOR AND BE WELCOMED IN YOU COULD REDUCE THE FEAR AND GET A FOOTHOLD INTO THEIR SOUL YOU COULD GAIN EMOTIONAL INTIMACY, FEEL WANTED, IMPORTANT, SPECIAL AND TREASURED.

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Why Your Partner Rejects You When You Try to Get Close – part 1

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:13+00:00June 24th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Are you ready to give up on your relationship because your partner shuts you out and keeps you out each time you try to connect? Are you fed up with being treated like a monster instead of a lover and a loving partner? Maybe you are wondering what on earth is making your partner push you away and spurn your efforts to get emotionally intimate! This video is the first in a series that takes you behind the curtains and into the soul of your partner - where you can see all the murky fears that make it hard to trust you and let you in.

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The Real Fear Behind Fear of Committment
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The Real Fear Behind Fear of Committment

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

The Real Fear Behind Fear of Committment

By dr_j_raymond|2017-09-11T19:42:21+00:00June 11th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

Are you longing to feel like you have a partner that is a good fit and that you are finally settling down, but wonder why you can't commit? Do you find that the person you are attracted to seems inviting and loving, but that you have doubts about whether there is someone out there even more suitable? Then you are caught in a conflict about what attachment and commitment means to you. One part of you is in touch with the comfort, the love and attention, the togetherness and the bliss of feeling close. But another part of you is scared you will have to give up your right to think for yourself and be your own person. So you end up regretting decisions you make to commit because as soon as you do, it's as if you have just given yourself a term of life in jail.

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How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?
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How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?

Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues

How to Make the Most Out of Giving and Receiving Apologies in Close Relationships?

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00May 30th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Communication Problems, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Whenever thirty-six-year-old Danny saw his twenty-nine-year-old partner Liz upset and crying about something he didn’t do, or something expectation he hadn’t met, he would start to feel guilty and ashamed and obey her demands for an apology. He wanted her to stop crying and rescue him from the guilt and shame. He wasn’t really interested in her feelings and how she interpreted his behavior. Each time he apologized she got more angry and would either shut down or berate him even more. Danny floundered, not knowing what to do next or how to keep their connection intact. When he felt aggrieved with Liz for not appreciating his thoughtfulness or his help around the house, he wouldn’t tell her about it. He wanted her to feel bad and apologize for snubbing him, but he wasn’t going to ask. He imagined how sweet it would be when she eventually ate humble pie and begged him to take the apology and resume normal relations

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Constant Arguments With Family and Friends Shorten Your LIfe
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Constant Arguments With Family and Friends Shorten Your LIfe

Anxiety therapy, relationship issues

Constant Arguments With Family and Friends Shorten Your LIfe

By dr_j_raymond|2016-12-13T05:19:17+00:00May 14th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, relationship issues|

At the age of fifty three Simon dropped dead one evening while sitting on the settee with a drink to unwind after his long and tense day. His three teenage children didn’t notice as they ran around absorbed in their cell phones, while his fifty year old wife Renee busied herself in the kitchen preparing dinner. Success in his limousine business had been hard to come by, but for the last 5 years he grew his customer base and brought home more money. The family home was just the way he and Renee had planned and he had a good network of support in his family and community. He belonged to the local gym, and liked to watch NASCAR racing with his friends. But one thing never got any better – that is the demands made on him by his wife, children, extended family and business partner.

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