Yearly Archives: 2014

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Do You Have To Choose between Romance and a Good Mate?

By | March 21st, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy, relationship issues|

Are you frustrated with having good people in your life but no one that sparks that romantic fire? Do you find yourself irresistibly attracted to someone who is hot and steamy, but does nothing for you in the friendship department? Perhaps you wonder whether you will ever find a person whom you could trust and rely on while also having good sex. It's probable that you are keeping these two needs so separate that you have to split yourself in half in order to satisfy both parts. But it doesn't have to be that way - if you figure out what purpose it serves to tear yourself into two pieces.

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Procrastinating About an Ambition May Be the Key To Authentic Success!

By | March 14th, 2014|relationship issues|

At 38 years of age April was divorced with two preteens and a boring job that paid the bills. But she was no nearer realizing her goals of becoming a fashion designer, with boutiques all over the world and the glitterati salivating for her next collection. She kept telling herself that one day she would go to college, get her fine arts degree and then set fire to the world with her brilliant clothes. Yet something always got in the way – the kids needed her – she was too tired to go to college and bring up her children – it cost too much – it would take too long – she was too old - no one would like her designs – she didn’t want to market her work – she didn’t have the money to invest in a business, and on it went. April was highly skilled in creating obstacles that felt insurmountable just when it seemed that there was no excuse for not following her dream.

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Dealing With Jealousy When Your Partner is Attracted to Someone Else

By | February 27th, 2014|Anxiety therapy|

Twenty-six year old salad bar manager Dominque’s stomach churned as she pictured her twenty-nine-year-old finance Terry, a copy editor, in a cozy chat with his colleague Brenda at their office party last month. There was something about the way they locked eyes and sidled up to one-and-other that sent jolts of bitter jealousy all through her body. Well, she wasn’t going to fade away into the background at Terry’s office party tonight, seething with jealousy, waiting to punish Terry on the ride home. This time she was going armed with an arsenal of weapons that were the perfect match for Brenda’s seductive qualities.

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Your Rule About What Love is Can Bar You From Receiving it – part 10

By | January 14th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

Do you have specific criteria for what you accept as a loving act, a loving word or stance? If so you may be excluding a whole host of interactions that are loving but that don't fall within your parameters. You end up feeling left out, empty, not valued and bitter. This video tells the story of just such a man for whom the only genuine love was pity, putting him permanently in the victim role.

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Rules About Who Makes You Happy, Makes You Angry and Envious -part 9

By | January 6th, 2014|Anxiety therapy, Intimacy|

If you spend much of your life waiting for that fairy godmother to come and wave her magic wand, to make you happy, BUT go to bed each night angry that you got left out again, THEN You'll probably find yourself envying other people who are smiling, happy and satisfied with their relationships. And it's all because you have an unconscious rule about who, what, when, and how you ought to be happy. The one missing ingredient is what role you play in that combination of factors.