Does your mood and self-esteem change according to how well you think you did in a job or project? Then you may be attributing your feelings to the activity you perform and that is a mistake. The truth is more to do with the nature of the relationship you have with the people you work with. Distinguishing between the activity and the person you do it with makes all the difference to finding consistent satisfaction.
Learn how to listen for the hidden wish for connection disguised as nagging orders from your loved ones. Get past the smoke screen and hear the real need for closeness and intimacy with you that comes across as ordering you around.
Guilt that goes with impacting others negatively keeps you locked in a fortress without intimacy. Fear of others impacting you with love in case you become needy makes you turn loved ones into fortresses. Either way intimacy is lost and loneliness takes over. Learn why impacting each other is a good sign of love, caring and necessary for strong healthy relationships.
discover a simple effective way to embed good feelings into your emotional memory so that you can use them when bad times try to wipe them out. Make good feelings a more normal rather than fleeting experience in your daily life.
Relationship Advice Tips by Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. Do what I say or else I will punish you for not proving your love! Obedience versus freedom of choice - what's the criteria for proof of love? If Tim did what Koren asked of him it meant that he really loved her. Obedience to the wishes [...]
Three stage strategy to communicate how you want to be loved and cared for that will make your partner understand what is most important to you and why, so that you get the proof you need of your value.
Declan thought that giving up his passionate hobby was the way to avoid his partner's mocking words, but his self-sacrifice backfired. Relationship quality decreased because he was motivated to take away bad stuff rather than reach for the good stuff. Learn what research tells us about what type of self-sacrifice improves the quality and satisfaction ratings of intimate relationships.
Conversation tips for dating couples to bring the experience alive. Avoid the same old boring questions and answers that make you wish you hadn't bothered. Learn how to ask and respond to each other in ways that assures a connection which makes you both feel special.
Do you have a mini panic attack every time you try to clear out your clutter? Do you have trouble parting with your possessions because it feels like a part of you, then you may be using your material possessions as a substitute for emotional security. If your relationships make you feel empty and let you down, possessions fill the hole. Follow the 4 steps to gain emotional security and your clutter will disappear all by itself!
There are tell tale signs of sincerity you can use to tell if your loved ones mean the sweet words they say! Focus on the "how" and not on the "what" of the words to get a good read.
